What Not to Do When Winning Him Over
Trying to make the first move is a complex process, with many potential pitfalls along the way!
You know how it is. There’s a hunk that you’ve got your eye on and you’re itching to ask them out on a date. The problem is, you want to do it right. You hear so much about people falling at the first hurdle that it seems almost impossible that you’ll be able to bag that hottie without a hitch. Well ladies, don’t worry! We’ve put together a list of some of the biggest don’ts so that you know what to steer clear of when you make the first move.
Acting like someone else
First of all, don’t pretend to be someone else. If you’re trying to attract that special someone, it’s no use doing so by acting unlike you would normally. Picture this scenario. You hit it off and before you know it, you’ve been dating for six months. What happens then? Do you go along with your elaborate personality transplant or drop the act overnight, giving your other half the fright of their life? Trust us ladies, they need to like you for you. Otherwise, they’re not worth your time.
Playing hard to get
Playing hard to get is a bit of a risky strategy. Guys often complain about us girls sending out mixed signals and it’s easy to understand their frustration. One moment we’re all over them and the next we’re not calling them back for days on end. A better solution? Play your cards a little close to your chest but don’t appear completely standoffish. Compliment and let your man know that you’re happy to be with them. Which brings us on to our next point.
Acting too keen
Don’t come on too strong. Yes, we know we just told you not to play hard to get, but listen! We’re going for a happy medium here. Nothing is going to send a man running for the hills faster than a girl who talks marriage and babies after the first date. The same goes for one who sends thirty text messages before 11AM. Cool, calm and collected is your mantra here. Be interested without being too keen.
Not wearing enough clothes
Don’t flash too much flesh. Remember what we said about playing your cards a little close to your chest? The same goes for your body. Wear clothes that accentuate and hint at what’s underneath rather than flash everything all at once. Legs or cleavage is the rule here. Oh, and make sure that it’s something that you’re comfortable in too.
Assuming that all they want is sex
Finally, don’t assume that sex is all that they’re after. Jumping into bed may be what some guys are after, but not all. Look closely at his signals to find out what he wants to happen. If you sleep together after the third date and he’s just as keen to see you after, that’s great. It’s also great to get to know each other first. It’s all about doing it when the time is right. Just have some great moves ready for when that time comes!
Good luck in getting your man!
So there you have it, the guide on what not to do when trying to bag the man of your dreams. Of course, there are many more things we could take about but we’ve covered the most important issues for you. Remember, your personality and love of having fun are going to win him over here. One more thing? Don’t keep talking about your ex. Just don’t.
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