It’s 2am! Don’t Answer That Text Message!

Don't answer that text!

Never has there been a more fascinating time to be a woman. We are asking for and demanding equal pay. Guess what? We deserve it! Women can truly have it all now. We have amazing careers, beautiful wardrobes, and happy children all while wearing the fiercest pumps imaginable. So why are so many single and successful women falling victim to the “hook-up culture”, settling for less, and ending up on the “booty call” roster?  Your booty call will not save you from being desperately single and lead you into relationship heaven. Responding to the 2 a.m text message will never give you the love and relationship you dream of!

Here are 4 reasons why you shouldn’t answer that text message!

1. Just like businesses have their hours of operations, so should your availability. Seriously, if you respond to the text message what do you plan on achieving besides a fake orgasm? Sure he’ll come over hopefully give you the best 19 minutes of his life, but then what? You’ll be late for work, may have to call in sick, or suffer from being so tired nothing will get done. You two aren’t exactly the brunch type because you really haven’t seen too much of each other during the daylight dating hours. You’re not a 24 hour convenience store, so stop acting like you can service this person anytime of the night.  You want a relationship. Not just a few casual dates that lead to a booty call. When actively dating you’ll need to set and keep boundaries.

2. You owe it to yourself to value yourself. Remember having a summer job as a teen and working those ridiculous hours when all you wanted to do was go to the beach like the rest of your friends? You knew that if you did you wouldn’t be able to buy the car you wanted. Not the beat up clunker that your parents thought you should have. You worked hard and sacrificed to earn it! Remember that feeling? Well it’s the same thing when it comes to being single and dating. We truly value what we have to work for and earn! When it comes so easy to us we sometimes take it for granted or don’t notice its worth at all.  Don’t forget! You want more than just a 2 a.m text message!

3. The anticipation and waiting will lead to more desire. Delayed gratification is crucial in the dating and mating game. It sounds like such a cliché, but it’s true. Good things come to those who wait. You hate to admit it to your friends, but you’ve had several one night stands. You’ve been the booty call girl countless times, so why not try something different. It’s true madness to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different outcome. Stop! Just stop! This time around we are going to wait, build up anticipation, and create a long-lasting desire. Every relationship starts somewhere. In the early stages of dating take your panties out of the equation. If he’s lucky you’ll introduce them later!

4. By slowing down and taking your time you will actually find out if you really like this person. What do you really know about this man who texts you at 2 a.m? Do you know if you’re really compatible other than your not so great sexual chemistry? Has he met your close family or friends? Does he even like having sex with you with the lights on? When you take the time to get to know someone you’ll begin to see them in a different light. Remember ladies you’re a prize! Ask questions and more questions. Get to know this man who texts you at 2 a.m!

There are times in your life where a booty call can be just what you need. You’re busy going to school, working, or trying to take over the world.  I get it!  Sometimes relationships that begin quickly can last almost forever, but they’re the exception to the rule.  At this point in your life you want to do something different and actually follow the “Rules”.  You’re worth so much more than a 2a.m. text!  Don’t answer it!


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Tia Nicole

Sex toy educator/intimacy aficionado with Passion Parties! Helping people put SPICE back into their bedrooms!

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  1. Maddy D 5th June 2015 12:15 am

    Well said. Some women really need to hear this.

    • Tia Nicole
      Tia Nicole 5th June 2015 3:16 pm

      Hi Maddy! Thank you for your comment. As women sometimes we forget how valuable we are!

  2. Vin 5th June 2015 12:20 am

    I’m a single women and what you’re saying is correct. I don’t answer any text after a certain time. However, some of my friends are just plan stupid, I’m telling them about this article. Maybe hearing from someone else will help them.

    • Tia Nicole
      Tia Nicole 5th June 2015 3:17 pm

      Hi Vin! Thank you so much! I hope they will listen too

  3. Tracey 5th June 2015 4:45 pm

    Great article! If all us women stood together and did this, we could put a stop to undesirable behavior that man thinks is appropriate. Get what we all really deserve. Self-respect! Boycott the booty call and wait for something more substantial. You’re totally worth it! (And there’s nothing wrong with self servicing while you wait for someone who values you as much as you value yourself.
    #IhateTinder #ValueThyself

    • Tia Nicole
      Tia Nicole 8th June 2015 1:15 pm

      Tracey you are absolutely right! Fear plays a huge part in the booty call. Some answer it based on fear that they will not be liked anymore. Boycott the booty call! I agree! Thank you Tracey for your brilliant insights!

  4. Daniel
    Daniel 13th August 2015 2:16 pm

    Love this article, something i will be adopting, very insightful.

  5. Tia Nicole
    Tia Nicole 13th August 2015 2:55 pm

    Good for you Daniel! Thank you for reading.


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