Should Men Be Afraid Of Dating a Model?

SHOULS MEN BE AFRAID OF DATING A MODEL

Why Your Worries About Escorts are Unfounded!

Many men worry that they’re not going to match up to a gorgeous escort, but that’s simply not true!

Sometimes being single is difficult. If you’ve been on your own for a long time, your self-esteem can plummet. You might think that you’re never going to find anyone, or that a lot of women are out of your league. Well, that’s simply not true – and there’s something you can do to get back into the dating game. By spending time with a beautiful model, you’ll be able to gain that much needed confidence. If the thought of seeing an escort leaves you feeling nervous or insecure – here’s why it could be one of the best things you’ve ever done.

You’ll learn from your time together.

A lot of men worry about not being able to please a woman, especially if they’re inexperienced. Hiring an escort can help you to finally put those worries to bed.

Thanks to your escort’s wealth of experience, she’ll know exactly what feels good and what doesn’t, and will be very happy to give you some guidance. Once you’ve mastered those all-important skills of seduction, you’ll feel much more confident about not only seeing escorts, but women on the dating scene too.

You’ll become more confident.

Spending time with a beautiful woman will really help you to build your confidence levels. If you’re on a night out and you’re seen with your escort, you’re going to be the envy of all your friends and colleagues. Now, if that’s not going to give your ego a boost, there’s no knowing what will!

Just knowing that you’re the center of your escort’s attention will help you to feel a lot better about yourself – particularly if you feel that that many women are too good looking for you. Your escort will give you all the confidence you need to get out there and approach some really stunning women.

Your one-stop escort agency.

If you’re looking for an escort, give Elite VIP Models a call. They’re one of the most prestigious escort agencies in London, and have some stunning ladies on their books. They’re available to come and visit you at your home, your hotel or accompany you on a night out.

If you’ve never hired an escort before and aren’t sure what to expect, don’t worry. Your very own beautiful model will take the time to find out exactly what it is you need from the date, and go above and beyond to satisfy you. It doesn’t matter what kind of lady you’re after either. A classy English Rose, an exotic beauty or a Mediterranean temptress – they’re all working at Elite!

So to arrange your dream date, pick up the phone and let their friendly team help you to pick the perfect girl.

Go on, give them a call!

There’s no need to feel insecure because of your single status. Everyone deserves to have fun when they’re playing the field, and some no-strings dates with escorts will help you to do exactly that. With lots of gorgeous women waiting for you to name a time and place, there’s no excuse not to make the plunge.

Going back to the original question – should men be afraid of dating a model? With so much to gain from the experience, absolutely not!

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3 Times it is ok to hit the pause button on dating

3 Times it is ok to hit the pause button on dating

Meeting new people, going on dates, chatting online to potential mates and sitting through endless speed dating events or set-ups can and will take a toll on you and it is perfectly OK to hit the pause button for a while.

I’ve just recently taken a pause myself and discovered amazing new things about myself like exactly what it is I am looking for in a partner and how to enjoy male company without the pressure of always wondering if there is something more.

Those realizations, though, took long and hard work and were precipitated by some harrowing and tiresome dating experiences.

Here are three times it is OK to hit the pause button on dating:

1)      You’re being stood up once too often:

Sometimes, it is a simple case of you being more invested in a date than the other person is or they got nervous and freaked out.

It doesn’t take the sting out of sitting all alone like an idiot for 30 minutes, an hour etc and having people stare at you at a restaurant, bowling alley, theatre play etc with pity in their eyes.

What’s worse is if your date didn’t even have the courtesy to text or call to let you know they cannot make it.

This, you need to understand, is not your fault – someone who does this to you, isn’t the one for you so gather your dignity and let it go.

The next time you get invited on a date, let that person put in all of the hard work and enthusiasm.

2)      Online suitors are rude and pushy:

I had a guy calling me nasty names and insulting me because I wasn’t responding to his messages as quickly or as enthusiastically as he’d like.

It didn’t seem to matter to him that he wasn’t putting in the work to ask me worthwhile questions or trying to get to know me- he was angry that I wasn’t fawning over him.

I realized that if this was the way he was acting before I met him, he wasn’t worth meeting … screw it, time to log out!

3)      You’re bored by potential mates:

This happens when conversation at dinner or online is stilted, frustrating and/or one side. You’re doing all of the question asking and your potential mate is talking constantly about themselves, their possessions, their jobs, the weather etc but taking no real interest in you or showing that there is more depth to them.
Honestly, if you think you’d have more fun catching up on the latest Game of Thrones episode than have to attempt conversation with a vacuous individual, it’s ok to say thanks but no thanks to a second date or online conversation.

Hitting the pause button and enjoying some me-time is an amazing, freeing experience and one you should take every now and then to clean the slate for the next round of dating. Go on and do it!

Fazielah Williams
Fazielah Williams is a blogger and publicist from Cape Town, South Africa. Born and raised in the gorgeous Mother City, she’s a lover of all things chocolate, travel, magic and love. Her quest for love and meeting the father of her future children has led to a number of hilarious and often embarrassing situations which she chronicles on her blog site www.ctgirlwiththeredscarf.com

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How to Survive another Bad Date

How to survive another bad date

 

You are ready to go on another date but the last time you went on one it was a disaster. As a matter of fact the last 5 dates have been uneventful and downright aggravating! Bad Dates can include a variety of circumstances dealing with lack of chemistry, blatant rudeness, boredom, narcissistic behavior or something embarrassing that may have happened.

We ALL have our stories:

One guy I had dated a few times went up to use my bathroom, came down 10 minutes later and said he had to leave! WTF? I couldn’t find anything incriminating in my medicine cabinet. Talk about a Seinfeld episode! I went cycling on another first date and spun out in the gravel, fell off my bike & ended up at the hospital! Another memorable time, my date got pissed off at something he didn’t agree with, quickly paid the restaurant bill and didn’t even stop the car to let me out at my front door. I now refer to that as my “tuck & roll” bad date!

Your intuition should always be your number one guide when putting yourself out there into the dating market. If it doesn’t feel right and your gut starts churning, don’t go there! Even a text can show red flags!

 10 Things to be Aware of on a First Date:

  1. Are they attentive to you & are you attracted to them?
  2. Did they make an effort with their appearance and compliment yours?
  3. Is the conversation shared equally or does it feel like an interview?  Is it all about them?
  4. Are they respectful and polite throughout the date? What did their body language say?
  5. Do they make you feel comfortable? Are they playful or too serious?
  6. Did they follow through on the original date plans and were they on time? Did they cancel or reschedule the date?
  7. Do they bring up sex right away in early conversations?
  8. Did they take you to your car or your front door after the date ends?
  9. How much do you have in common? Does the conversation flow freely or is awkward or forced?  (Opposites may attract but they seldom stay together.)
  10. Are they authentic and interesting? Are you interested in them & really want to see them again? Make sure there is a fit and don’t ignore anything that seems insincere.

What do you do if you are uncomfortable and want to leave when you’re out on a date?

Many people are too nice or shy to say anything controversial when things aren’t going well. It is always a good idea to tell them you have a 2 hour time limit on the first date so that they are aware that you have to be somewhere else. Do not go to their house or let them pick you up until you have established a trust & rapport with them. Always be in control of your entrance and departure in the early stages of meeting someone for safety purposes.

No matter how many texts or phone calls you may have had with them, you still don’t know them yet. (There are some pretty good manipulative writers out there.) Don’t get sucked into their smooth talking ways until you have met them face to face.  Eye contact will tell you a lot about a person!

Should you be Honest if your Date is Rude?

Most people do not know how to express themselves when dealing with something like this. If the date is awful they just walk away and let it go as an experience they don’t want to repeat! You could make a difference in their life by tactfully telling them what bothered you and maybe they will learn from it. Some people really don’t know how they come across to others. You may have been put in their path to teach them something about themselves.

Life lessons are not just about what we need to learn about ourselves but also what we can do for someone else.  

I was introduced to a guy through a friend who spent our entire first date on the phone. After an hour went by I got up from my seat, went over to the server, paid my share of the bill and left without a word. I am not sure he even noticed. He had no respect for me or my time and didn’t even hold up a finger to silently apologize. It was obviously something he did regularly and thought nothing of it. I was offended but got over it quickly. Don’t waste too much time analyzing bad behavior or take it too personally. It’s their stuff to deal with and some people are just rude; plain and simple.

One of the ways to prevent some disaster dates is by pre-screening and really paying attention to the initial way they interact with you!

  • Don’t take their online dating profile as the gospel truth.  People lie all the time! Also be aware of your friend or family’s advice about that perfect person they may have for you. Talk to them on the phone first before meeting them and ask the questions that are important to you. Requesting a photo is not unreasonable or shallow. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone has different tastes.
  • Use the technology available at your fingertips; Google them!! Most people are on some sort of social media tool like Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. If it’s out there in cyberspace it’s free for the public to see. Protecting yourself is always your number 1 priority!
  • Carrie Bradshaw from “Sex and the City,” says that first dates are like job interviews with cocktails. How true is that statement?  When applying for a job you are paying attention to what they are saying and what they are offering you. Unfortunately many men & women make the mistake of not really hearing what is being said on the first few dates and could save themselves a lot of time and energy seeing any red flags earlier, rather than later.
  • Cocktails may make you loosen up on a date but alcohol changes up what we perceive about a person and how we may be perceived by them. Let’s face it; we’re just a little bolder with liquid courage in our bloodstream. I know it’s easier to face someone new after a few beers or a glass of wine but if you want to get the real version of who they are, coffee is a much better choice on that first date.

Too many embarrassing things happen when alcohol enters the picture too early. (Just watch a few episodes of “The Bachelor or Bachelorette” reality show to see what I mean!)

  • Narcissism can be quite common and is super annoying! This is when someone talks about themselves for the entire first date. They brag about their accomplishments, who they know, how much money they have, what type of car they drive and often discuss sex openly and how many people they have slept with! They may as well just have a conversation with themselves in the mirror. Nervousness is one thing but arrogance is another. Caring about another person is the first rule of dating. If it is all about them in the beginning, it probably always will be.

When Planning a First Date:

  • Always have an alternative option in case your original plan gets altered due to the weather or something that may be uncomfortable for your date.
  • Be organized, follow through and always respect their time.  Do not bail last minute on a date because something better may have come up!
  • We all have first date insecurities so the more information they have regarding the date particulars will put them at ease because there will be no surprises. They will know what to wear (casual or dressy, heels or runners) if they should eat beforehand and can look up the directions to the meeting location. Ask them if they have any questions or if they are comfortable with the date venue you chose.
  • Confirm the date! This is appreciated and proper etiquette, especially if it was discussed a week or two before.  It puts them at ease knowing you haven’t forgotten about it and that you are thinking about them & looking forward to seeing them.

Dating can be a great experience if you are smart and observe each scenario with clarity. You will learn how to weed out the wrong types and eventually stop attracting them towards you. Keep an open mind but don’t spend time with people you have no connection with. You shouldn’t have to talk yourself into being with someone!

It should be a natural fit that flows without too many questions or a thousand compromises. Yes, dating is frustrating and hard on your self-esteem, but anything worth having is not always an easy accomplishment. Don’t give up on love; treat it with the same patience & determination as you would with any other goal in your life; it’s always worth the wait and perseverance in the end.

 

Susan McCord is a Dating/Relationship/Lifestyle Blogger/Talk Show Host, Published Author, Advice Columnist, Interviewer & Certified Life Coach. She attended BCIT in Burnaby, B.C. for studies in Broadcasting. Susan is an Advice Columnist @ Dear Sybersue which is also the title of her book available at Amazon, Itunes, Smashwords, Barnes & Noble and many other book platforms. Susan was recently named a VIP member of Worldwide Branding. This special distinction honors individuals who have shown exceptional commitment to achieving personal and professional success. Susan has devoted her career to helping others find happiness. Over the past decade she has established a stellar reputation as a sought-after dating & relationship expert, advice columnist, blogger & interviewer. She is best known for hosting a lifestyle talk show for an International audience on YouTube and has garnered more than 1.3 million views which consists of interviews, dating/relationship/lifestyle advice & comical skits. She is also an EXPERT Writer & Dating Adviser at examiner.com. She makes you think!

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Put off from hiring an escort? You shouldn’t be

PUT OFF FROM HIRING AN ESCORT YOU SHOULDNT BE

 

Despite the fact that countless people across the world hire escorts every day, there is still a stigma attached to them.

Some people don’t feel comfortable with the idea of paying for companionship, company or sex. They might be concerned that the experience will be unrealistic or non-enjoyable. Others are simply worried that they’ll be laughed at or looked down on for doing so.

Yet in most cases, these people who feel uncomfortable or look down on others have never actually spent time with an escort before. Their views are not particularly informed or fair to what is a thriving industry filled with real people who are working to earn a living.

Here are some of the most common reasons why hiring an escort is not always the bad idea many people think it is.

Improve confidence around strangers

It is a fact of life that some people aren’t comfortable around strangers, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But it can make meeting partners, developing friendships or merely enjoying social occasions slightly more difficult. Escorts can help overcome that.

Not only are you spending time in the company of a beautiful person showing an interest in you – which would boost anyone’s self-esteem – but you’re getting valuable one-on-one time with someone who socialises for a living.

Escorts know how to make others feel comfortable around them better than your average person does, and having that personal interaction can help introverts come out of their shells altogether.

Companion for social events

We’ve all been invited to social events before where you’re expected to bring a guest. For many this isn’t a problem, as they’re already in a relationship or have many close friends. Yet some don’t have either, and turning up alone can feel embarrassing, sad or a combination of both.

Hiring an escort is an effective way out of this, as not only does this person have companionship for the night but their confidence is sky high as every head is turning to see the beautiful person on their arm.

The fact that you can then return home that night with no strings attached to the relationship means you can focus 100% on enjoying yourself all night long – which is what everyone wants to do anyway.

Memorable tour of a new city

Moving to a new location can be daunting. You know no one, have no idea how to get around and don’t know where to go. Things can get lonely and confusing pretty quickly.

An under-appreciated talent of escorts is knowing their way around locations surprisingly well. They are often well-versed in the best tourist attractions, restaurants, cafe spots and other fun places to go, and they’ll be much more enjoyable company than your average tour guide.

Not just about the sex

Although it is a common reason for why many hire escorts, as we’ve shown above, sex isn’t the only benefit to spending time with one. Ultimately, escorts are real people, and sometimes what someone needs most is just a bit of company. In these circumstances, there are few better people to go to.

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What She Secretly Wants From You (And It’s Not Confidence)

What she secretly wants from you and its not confience

Women are keeping a massive secret from you. Not because they want to see you fail, but more because they actually want to see you succeed.

Women are very tricky about this sort of thing. They love to watch men squirm and sweat to figure out the challenges of life, and women are definitely one of the many challenges you will encounter in your life.

The minute you listen to what women say, rather than the meaning behind what they’re saying, you’re going to be lost and confused. Much like a man on a deserted island, you’re better off becoming resourceful rather than waiting for the moment to use your flare gun.

The biggest mystery of them all when it comes to women instructing men on what they find attractive is the ever elusive word at the core of female desire in men. You know the word I’m talking about. It’s Confidence.

What She Secretly Wants From You (And It’s Not Confidence)

Back when I first started seriously studying women and what it is they truly desire, I spent ages trying to figure out the idea of women wanting a confident guy. Everywhere I looked, the advice was the same: women want a confident guy.

I knew there had to be something deeper to this vague and seemingly unachievable desire for confidence in men.

Clearly, if women were getting confident men in their lives, they wouldn’t need to tell us ad nauseam on an infinite loop that they want us to be so. However, if their instruction made sense, we as men wouldn’t be so confused.

Confidence

Through my journey to becoming a nice guy who women truly want, I spent a great deal of time working on my social skills of listening, eye contact, body language, conversation, and social dynamics just to name a few.

To say the least, I eventually became quite confident in the art of being social.

So confident that when I would tell my heroic transformation story to women on dates, they thought I was joking. How could this charismatic guy in front of them have been shy just a few short years ago?

The last girl I went out with was so nervous about me not being nervous that I had to end the date! It’s not that she wasn’t confident; it’s that something about a guy not being a little nervous on a date is a little strange!

After that little episode, I decided to head back to the drawing board. I began to wonder yet again about the idea of women wanting that confident guy. Much like you, I was racking my brains trying to figure it out.

Especially since being confident with women certainly wasn’t working.

The Breakthrough

The big secret is that even though women tell you they’re looking for a confident guy, they’re leaving a big piece of the puzzle out. She wants you to piece the puzzle together, remember?

I’m about to break that secret to you, but only if you promise to start using it right now. Promise? Good. I knew I could count on you to take massive action.

My man, she’s looking for you to have courage, more so than confidence.

Courage

The biggest thing I noticed about being confident with women, is that it actually sets alarm bells off in their head. Unless she’s looking for a good time, she wants to know that you’re a human being.

Dating should make you nervous. Not cripple you. But it should be exciting. When you’re so confident with women that you’re no longer nervous, it can come across as mechanical and fake.

When she says she’s looking for a confident guy, what she really means is that, yes, she wants you to have confidence in your known abilities. For example, I’m confident I can play the guitar, and I certainly don’t need courage to do that, anymore.

But when it comes to things you want to try or do, where you have no confidence at all, she wants to see you live by the fire of your heart. It’s called being courageous.

So what if you don’t know what to say, or haven’t approached girls very often – that’s normal! Light her up with how nervous you are, because you knew in your heart that you had to talk to her.

Take her by the hand, and lead her on a journey mixed with your confidence and your courage. She’ll definitely encourage it

Kevin Alexander
Kevin Alexander helps shy, introverted nice guys finish first with women via the Nice Guy Dating Daily Podcast and blog at niceguydating.ca. His brash, brutally honest yet approachable and comedic style keeps you entertained and informed about how to handle everything from dating to charm to fashion to exercise, making sure you finish first with women. When not on his podcast, you can find him guest blogging on sites such as Digital Romance Inc, SWExperts, and TSB Magazine.

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10 ways to scare beautiful women away this Halloween

10 WAYS TO SCARE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN AWAY THIS HALLOWEEN
Halloween is on its way, so here’s a horror story for you.
Every evening, thousands of men terrify the women they’re trying to attract on a night out. Beautiful women will literally run away from them at the bar, and they have no idea why it’s happening…
It’s a true story! These men might think it’s a curse or something they can’t control.
In reality, they’re probably making one of these ten common mistakes to scare women away.

1. Approaching incorrectly

Rather than approaching from her eyeline with a smile, some guys will grab a woman or simply scream at her. This is more like a scene from Dawn of The Dead than an attempt to get a date.

2. Lack of smile and eye contact

A smile and strong eye contact is must-have body language when meeting anyone.
A smile shows you’re friendly. Eye contact communicates that you’re confident.
Without either, you can come across like a serial killer.

3. Bad hygiene

Even if you’re look like Jay Hernandez in Hostel or Ryan Reynolds in The Amityville Horror, you’re not taking anyone home if you have bad breath. The same goes for dodgy teeth, dirty clothes or damp armpits.
Take a shower before you show up at the club.

4. Awful fashion

A Halloween costume might be the one occasion you can get away with dressing like a slob.
Nevertheless, it remains true that the way you dress says so much about how you value yourself.
If you’re scruffy, grubby and ungroomed, you’re going to scare women away.

5. Nerves

Like a zombie epidemic, nervous energy is infectious.
If you’re nervous, the nerves will transfer onto the woman.
Suddenly, she feels awkward and anxious around you and wants to escape.
Unfortunately, nerves never fully disappear. The only solution is to face your fear and hopefully you’ll eventually find it easier.

6. Being too physical

Here’s a message to the men who dry-hump women without introducing themselves, or who grope their legs by the bar.
You’re creepy. You’re pathetic. You could even be prosecuted. Please stop.

7. Being too vulgar

Asking for sex within five or six minutes of meeting someone can be seen as slightly forward.
Even if she did want sex, she’s unlikely to respond well to a straight-up request for it right away.
Share your intentions in a more subtle way.

8. Cringeworthy online dating pictures

It could be a topless selfie. You could be sitting with a tiger or ten years younger than you are in real life.
There are all sorts of pictures that make a potential online partner swipe the wrong way.
Award-winning blogger Katy Horwood is particularly unforgiving of terrible Tinder profiles.
She lists all the pictures and pick-up lines that make her puke, in a post delightfully titled ‘When Will Men Stop Being Such F***ing Tools On Tinder’.

9. Social media stalking

Most women can be communicated with on several social media platforms at any time.
Nevertheless, send too many messages and you’ll be labelled a ‘stalker’ that doesn’t deserve a response.
If she’s actually into you, she’ll answer your first text message.

10. Sending unsolicited photos of your penis.

The most bewildering behaviour of all.
Seriously, I’ve yet to meet a woman who welcomes this…

 

Joe Elvin
Joe Elvin is a magazine journalist finding his feet in the city of London. He is fascinated by the psychology of attraction and blogs on this subject at thelondondater.co.uk

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Bored and Stressed City Workers Need Company

bored and stressed city workers need company

How London’s Businessmen Relax and Unwind

For a single man working in London, stress and lack of time can be a real issue. Thank goodness then, for the city’s escorts.
Life as a city worker is great most of the time. The money is good, the work is rewarding, the surroundings vibrant – the list goes on. What doesn’t get mentioned though, are the downsides. With exciting new deals can come long hours, with a high powered position can come plenty of pressure. What this means is that come Friday night, your average high flying businessman can be totally wrung out. With little time or energy to socialise, there’s often one thing that these men turn to – the services of an escort.

We’ve all got needs

No matter how high-powered their jobs, London’s city workers are only human. Yes, those long hours at the office bring in plenty of money – but some men end up sacrificing plenty more along the way. With all of their time and effort being poured into their jobs, there’s often little time for meeting women. Now, we all have needs – and these men are no exception. Everyone has to relax and unwind; and that’s where an escort comes in!

A personal service

The best London outcall escorts are experienced with dealing with bored and stressed city workers. Taking their time to find out exactly what their client likes, they’ll be able to deliver a service that fulfils needs that have been ignored for far too long. Whether it’s a long, sensuous massage or simply an evening of drinking and flirting, these ladies know exactly what their client needs to feel like them again.

 

No commitment? No problem

Sometimes, it can be impossible for a busy city worker to commit to a relationship, what with his long hours and commitment to his job. The great thing about seeing escorts is that they can be booked to fit in around a busy man’s schedule. They’re a no-strings alternative to dating – and leave all the decisions about where and when to their client. For a busy man, just knowing that he doesn’t have to explain why he hasn’t called or see someone regularly is a huge relief. He can choose to see an escort as little or as often as he likes, with no pressure on him to commit to anything long term.

Always discreet

A lot of men don’t want other people to know that they see escorts, and that’s something that the blue chips girls of the city always bear in mind. If an escort is going to be visiting a gentleman at his home, she’ll arrive discreetly as to not attract the attention of his neighbours. If she is heading out into London with a client and he is worried about bumping into friends or colleagues, she’ll ensure that no awkward situations arise then either. She’ll go along with a cover story faultlessly, leaving her real profession between just two people – her and her date for the evening. It’s this discretion and reliability that makes the best escorts in the city so popular.

Will you make the call?

Seeing how much they can offer a client, it’s not surprising that many city slickers have an escort agency on
speed dial. Whether it’s for a night in or dinner at the hottest restaurant in town, a high-class escort is the perfect companion. So if you’re a businessman who’s feeling bored and stressed out after a long day at work, you know what to do; just pick up the phone!

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Hot Women Fart Too

hot women fart too

Well, it is true. Hot women do fart. Just like you. They also burp and shit.

There. I have just shattered your over zealous imagined perfect picture of your woman. You know what I’m talking about fellas – that picture in your mind of a woman you are attracted to that gets bigger and brighter and hotter and sexier with every tick of the clock.

You fantasize, dream, and expand the vision of this woman you have fastened your attraction to as the end all be all of beauty. If she farts, she farts rainbows. When she burps, it’s reminiscent of tree sprite giggles. And when she shits, IF she shits, oh, who are we kidding, she never shits.

She is perfect

In every possible way. So perfect, she is circling Jesus’ level. Only sexy and wearing a thong. So how the hell could you ever expect to land a hottie of that magnitude?!?

Well, chances are, you won’t. And only YOU are to blame.

You have done what so many other men have done before you. You have put a woman on a pedestal for no other reason than that you want her. After all she’s hot, sexy, and desirable. It’s understandable that you would be attracted. But so what?

You know NOTHING about this woman. NOTHING. She could be an awful human being. A serial killer. She could smell like hot cheese and shame. So stop hampering your own game by psyching yourself out before you know anything about her.

I know this can be difficult

Once you see a woman that attracts you, our old friend Dopamine starts firing off in your brain. This drug makes you lust after this lady and starts the feelings of love a flowin. The more you want her, the more pain you will feel should she reject your advance. As the feelings intensify, it gets harder and harder to shake off the possibility of a horrible crash and burn.

This can become too much to bear, so you simply decide to make no attempt at all. You don’t need that kind of pain in your life, right? Wrong! This is how you grow.

Remember that she is simply a human. With all the foibles and problems that all humans have. She could even have far more wackbat issues than you. We all have our own crosses to bear. You don’t know what hers are.

Instead of wrecking your chances before you even take a shot, shake off all the extraordinary visions of the lovely lady you are interested in and start from ground zero.

She is simply a woman

She is not an angel, a god, or any mythical vixen. She farts, she shits, and she drools in her sleep. Just like you.

So next time you are afraid of saying hello, just envision your luscious lovely with a heinous case of the taco shits, wearing a sombrero, hovering over the toilet held aloft by her own bean fueled propulsion. That’ll dislodge your Dopamine blockage and take care of that approach anxiety that holds you back.

Now you no longer have her on a pedestal. A throne, yes (pun intended), but not a pedestal. I learned long ago that if you put someone on a pedestal, they are very likely to fall off. So don’t set them up there from the start.

Take away your self imposed limits and timidity. Walk right up and say hello. If she is not interested in you, that’s totally fine. She has a million reasons that she might not be attracted to you and only ONE of them is you.

After all, she could just have gas…

Spike Spencer
The “Dating Sage,” Spike Spencer, is an internationally known public speaker, actor, voice over talent, and a Foodie of the first magnitude. He is also a self-published author, with thousands of books sold. For the past 6 years, Spike has been speaking in his humorous “Don’t Kill Your Date (and Other Cooking Tips)” panel at conventions around the world. Thousands have enjoyed his talks about dating, relationships, and “being a man,” using cooking, adventure, and self improvement as his mediums. At some of these appearances, Spike actually cooks for the crowd. Spike is currently in production on the TV pilot of his “Don’t Kill Your Date (and Other Cooking Tips)” cooking/dating talk show, and writing the companion book, of the same title.
The DKYD concept derives from a very real desire to help guys become better MEN, spurred by Spike’s own personal story of divorce tragedy, bankruptcy, love lost, and re-emergence into the dating world. Through Spike’s “field research” – dating triumphs and tragedies, crazy experiences, PUA studies, and learning to really listen to women and build a strong successful relationship- Spike is the straight guy women can count on to help them translate their needs to their men. Spike uses cooking, a very real and popular way to expand a man’s arsenal of desirable traits, to help men attract the woman of their dreams, just like Spike has done! Visit him on his /a

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6 Ways Men Can Follow Up After A Date

6 Ways Men Can Follow Up After A Date

 

You just completed a fantastic date with someone new. Relationship potential is there. This new love-interest has you totally intrigued and excited so you definitely don’t want drop the ball with a bad follow-up strategy. A lack-luster follow up attempt could end any potential for future dates. To your increase the odds that your crush will say yes to a future date, here are 6 ways to follow up after a date…

1. A follow-up text

Sending a quick follow-up text it your love-interest is a great way to show that you had a fun on your date and that you’d love to go out again. A simple text saying something like, “Had a great time last night! Looking forward to seeing you again” will help lock down date #2! It takes two seconds. A short text of appreciation can speak volumes.

2. A short but sweet email

Maybe you’d like to be a bit more poetic with your follow-up and want to send more than a text. Feel free to send a follow up email if you’d like to say more than a sentence or two. Don’t go too crazy though. Sending a lengthy essay to your potential love-interest could be a bit overwhelming. A long paragraph is more than enough to show that you’re interested. Add a poem, meme, song, or funny video to put a smile on your crush’s face.

3. A quick phone call or voicemail

“Say what Dating Advice Girl? You mean actually use my phone to call my crush?” I know it’s crazy but yes, following-up with an old-fashioned phone call could be just the thing to make you stand out from the texting singles crowd!

4. A PRIVATE facebook message

If your potential love-interest is on FB more frequently than on their phone, especially while at work…a quick private message of appreciation could be a nice work day distraction. A short, “I hope you’re having a great day…looking forward to seeing you again soon,” will make it clear that you are interested in a future date. WARNING! DO NOT POST A MESSAGE ON YOUR CRUSH’S FACEBOOK WALL!! You’ve only gone out on one, maybe two dates, so it’s important to be discreet and avoid being overly aggressive virtually. You and your crush are still getting to know each other and most likely your relationship status has not yet been discussed. Play it cool and avoid passive-aggressively attempting to stake your romantic claim publicly via social media. Your social media PDA could backfire in a major way.

5. A card, flowers or a small gift to his/her home

Opt for this follow-up gesture if you picked up your date at their house and/or if you were invited inside.
If you haven’t actually been invited to your love-interest’s place, secretly finding out his or her address could feel a bit stalky to your crush. If you have discussed addresses and such, sending a small flower arrangement or a balloon bouquet follow-up gift of appreciation could put you at the head of the dating pack.

6. A card, flowers or a small gift to his/her work

Just like having something delivered to your crush’s home, make sure to only send something to your potential love-interest if you’ve already discussed where he/she works beforehand. It would also be wise to gauge your crush’s level of comfort at work before you go hog wild in case your crush is shy and would be horrified by a big bundle of balloons hovering above their cubicle. Go small with this option since your crush will be amongst colleagues in the workplace. Honestly who wouldn’t enjoy receiving a surprise bouquet of flowers from their crush on a random Monday at the office?!

Remember a date isn’t really complete until you’ve reached out, followed up, and planted the seed for a second date. It’s up to you to do what you can to make your crush want to say yes to another fun night out with you!

The Dating Advice Girl
The Dating Advice Girl, Erin Tillman, is a dating expert, social life consultant, author, speaker and radio host based in Los Angeles, California. For almost a decade she has been helping singles successfully navigate through the early stages of dating through her book, The Dating Guidebook (www.TheDatingGuidebook.com), over 100 dating-related articles for various lifestyle and dating sites, radio and TV segments and through her weekly radio show, The Dating Advice Girl Radio Show on 99.3 KCLA FM in Los Angeles. She has hosted singles events in and around Los Angeles, leads dating and self-help workshops for men and women, has given dating tips to celebs at events and on red carpets and has collaborated with several networks, radio stations, and magazines including Men’s Health Magazine, ABC7 Los Angeles and WGN 720 AM Chicago and featured leading a dating workshop for the single cast members on Lifetime Network’s ‘Big Women: Big Love’ just to name a few. She empowers singles navigating through the dating process by helping them improve their social skills, communication skills, and overall enjoyment of life regardless of marital status while raising their self-esteem. She does this through her radio show, articles, book, workshops, and tv appearances and 1-on-1 coaching with online dating profiles, app profiles, self-esteem building, and social skills training. Erin feels especially passionate about helping college students make safe and empowering choices for themselves while respecting their peers when it comes to dating on campus.

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Can You Not? 12 Things Men Do That Slam The Brakes On A Second Date

 

1. Being Rude To The Waiter Is A Dealbreaker

You should never be rude to your waiter. But if you do it on a first date, it’s likely to get you blocked from the second one. You can tell a lot about a person based on how they treat others. Being rude to your waiter is a definite turn off. And on that note, don’t forget to tip!

2. Bad Hygiene

If you’re planning to go out on a date, the very least you can do is shower and brush your teeth. Don’t douse yourself in cologne to cover up a funky locker room musk!

3. Talk About Commitment Issues

Are you stuck in the 80s? This is the digital age, everybody has commitment issues. It’s collateral damage from having endless choices. It’s also a major red flag that you’re a player. Which is totally cool, but you’ll get a lot further by being a man about it and calling it how it is, rather than inventing a fake psychological defect.

4. Don’t Call Her Baby

Calling her ‘babe’ on a first date is way too familiar. ‘Chick’ is another word to remove from your lexicon. Save the pet names for your pooch.

5. Bragging Rights

It’s a bad idea to start flashing a wad of money around on a first date. Of course, some girls are looking for a guy with money. If you make a big scene revealing a Rolex, how can you be sure that’s not the only thing she’s interested in? Other girls are grossed out by being too liberal with the dollar bills. If you want a hooker, go to a whorehouse. Don’t brag about all the stuff you have. Nobody cares.

6. Avoid Talking About Work

Nobody wants to hear a detailed breakdown of your resume on a first date. Don’t have a job? for some women, that could be a deal breaker too. Keep work talk to the minimum if you’re uncertain.

7. The Wandering Eye

If you’re looking to exit your date ASAP, flirt with your waitress. It’s a surefire way to never get past an awkward first dinner. Almost everything else can be overlooked in the right circumstances, but this is not one of them!

8. Check Your Phone Constantly

Those text messages can wait until later. Don’t spend the whole night on your phone.

9. Eating Off Her Plate

“Are you going to eat that?” Back away from the plate! Never come between a girl and her fries. Ever.

10. Get Wasted

If you stumble into a restaurant, three sheets to the wind, and order a round of tequila shots, you’re likely to freak your date out. Throwing up over her shoes? So not a good look.

11. Bring Up The Ex

The kiss of death to any young romance. There are a bunch of people to air your ex-issues with. A first date is not one of them. Don’t do it.

12. Me, Me, Me

How long have you been telling that awesome college story? Uh, twenty minutes ago actually. Her eyes are burning with a deep desire to leave and never return. It’s a good rule of thumb to ask plenty of questions about her. If you just sit and talk about your unfinished novel for two hours, she’s probably going to avoid date number two like the black plague.

 

The Caveat: Wait a minute! So you happen to be a jobless, drunk, aspiring novelist who loves to talk? You know you’re not going to change. Should you put on your good graces until a later date, or are you doomed to be alone forever? Just remember, when you meet the right girl, it should be almost impossible to faze her with your behaviour. That’s when you know you’ve found someone special. The right girl will take you as you are. Think of your bad traits as a way to weed out the wrong ones quickly! But it doesn’t hurt to be yourself in moderation, until she’s more comfortable spending time with you. The second date, for example!

 

Amy-Rose Lane
Amy-Rose Lane is a blogger and writer, who has written for multiple print and digital publications. When removed from her laptop, she can be found chasing waves in coastal California with her husband. Follow her on twitter @amyroselane

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