Ohlala touted as the Uber for Escorting Industry

OHLALA

The App That’s Changing the Dating Game

It seems like there’s almost too many dating apps out there at the moment. Ohlala is one you definitely won’t have seen before though.

The dating game has changed immensely in recent years, and more often than not, we’re looking for partners online. The escort industry is no different, and it’s recognised these changes in our dating habits. There are now many websites and even a search engine which you can use to find an escort near you. The latest leap forward though, is an app. From now on, you can hire an escort as simply and as quickly as you would hailing a cab on Uber. So let’s find out a little more.

About the app

The app in question is called Ohlala, and it’s the brainchild of Pia Poppenreiter. Her idea was that people could use an app to arrange instant, paid dates. She doesn’t think of herself as someone who’s offering the services of escorts. Instead, she’s a provider of dates that involve the exchanging of money. She’s relaxed about what happens during the dates, saying that that’s a private matter between the two people involved. All that she provides is a safe, easy way for people to connect and then arrange a price and location.

How to use it

When you use the app, you can see the influence of user-friendly, simple to use apps like Uber. So how does it work? Well, the male users will put in a request for a date. This request includes information such as their location, availability and the price they are willing to pay for the date. It’s then up to any available women in the area to take him up on his offer. If no one does that, then the request will disappear after 21 minutes. This puts the mind of male users at ease, as there will be no traces of their request left for anyone else to see. For the women, the app is great as it puts the decision firmly in their hands. So it’s a win-win situation for everyone! It’s a service firmly aimed at adults though, with users having to be 21 or over in order to use the app.

Giving guys a boost

This app could really work wonders for those who are new to the dating scene. Meeting someone via an app like Tinder can be really nerve-racking if you’re not very experienced or outgoing. Ohlala will allow those people to gain confidence – both with the process of using a dating app and the actual dates themselves. Of course, you don’t need to be a dating newbie to use it either. The prospect of spending an evening with a beautiful woman is a tantalizing one to any man.

A welcome development

What’s clear is that apps like this are making hiring an escort really easy, and blurring the lines between that and casual dating. Services like this mean that seeing an escort is rapidly becoming a normal part of the dating experience, and anyone with access to a smart phone can join in on the fun. Dating may be totally different to how it was a decade ago, but apps like this show us that it’s definitely a lot more fun!

Jonathan Bird
Jonathan is our Managing Director. He started Singles Warehouse in 2009 and has since watched it explode into one of the biggest and best dating resources on the internet. Proud of the #SWEXPERTS and everything they achieve, he loves to see many different messages delivered on Singles Warehouse because ‘it will resonate with someone’. A huge believer in IDIC – infinite diversity in infinite combinations.

Outside of the office Jonathan loves supporting start up companies, offering advice on growing dating businesses and playing on his xBox!

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10 Most Romantic Spots in Madrid

ROMANTIC MADRID SPOTS

Forget Paris, This is The New City of Love

The Spanish capital city is the perfect location for a weekend of eating, sightseeing and some serious romance.

Madrid is one of the most popular tourist destinations in the world, and it’s the ideal place for a little romance. After all, it’s a city full of stunning architecture, great restaurants and world class hotels – the perfect backdrop to any romantic getaway. So if you’re planning to take a trip to the Spanish capital, where should you head to if you’re trying to woo that special someone? Our definitive guide covers ten of the city’s most romantic locations to help you out.

Templo de Debod

If you’re trying to impress the lady in your life, then visit the Templo de Debod. This Egyptian temple is set in some stunning grounds. Head there at sunset, where the sun reflects off of the water and the whole place has a really magical aura.

Parque El Capricho

Parque El Capricho is the perfect spot for a romantic stroll. The park is filled with grottos, fountains, shrines and little spots where you can just sit together and forget the whole world. If you want some escapism, this is the place to go.

Botín

It’s the oldest restaurant in the world – and Botín really is an experience in itself. Book ahead to get a table in the incredible vaulted cellar, where you can really soak up that famous atmosphere. The food is great too – try the suckling pig!

Hotel Ritz

Want to spend the night in incredible luxury? Then book a room at the Hotel Ritz. Here you’ll find chandeliers and silk bed canopies along with incredible food and spa facilities. If you’re feeling flush, this is the hotel for you.

Teatro Real

If you’re a fan of music, take your date to the Teatro Real, Madrid’s beautiful opera house. Here you can watch some incredible opera performances, as well as classical recitals and ballets. There’s nothing more romantic than some beautiful music, after all.

Hotel Orfila

A lovely family run hotel, Hotel Orfila makes up for what it lacks in size with plenty of character. The rooms are opulently decorated, and the beautiful courtyard garden is the perfect place to sit together in the sunshine sipping on a glass of wine.

Al Trapo

Al Trapo serves up food by one of the country’s most talented chefs, Paco Morales. The food here is reasonably priced, and the location is fantastic (perfect for couples on a budget!) The star dish is the braised oxtail stew with sea snails and polenta gnocchi.

Filmoteca Espanola

A trip to the cinema is surely the most popular kind of date. Filmoteca Espanola is far from your standard multiplex though. A beautifully restored Art Nouveau building, it’s a beautiful place to watch a romantic movie together.

Ramon Freixa Madrid

Ramon Freixa Madrid has two Michelin Stars, so it’s one for the foodies. The menu is always changing, but you can always rely on top-class service alongside the incredible cooking. Make sure you dress up – eating here truly is a special occasion.

Principal Madrid

If its great views you’re after, then stay at The Principal Madrid. With a roof terrace that allows you to look out over the rooftops of the city from comfy chairs, it’s certainly in a great location. It’s a sleek, stylish place to stay – and will definitely wow the lady in your life.

Finding the right company

As you can see, Madrid is the perfect place for a loved-up getaway. If you’re single but still want to see the romantic side of the city, why not hire an escort in Madrid? Some beautiful company could make your romantic weekend much more fun – and you can arrange seeing her around any other commitments. It’s the best of both worlds. So why not discover what makes Madrid one of the most romantic destinations in the world? You certainly won’t regret it.

 

Jonathan Bird
Jonathan is our Managing Director. He started Singles Warehouse in 2009 and has since watched it explode into one of the biggest and best dating resources on the internet. Proud of the #SWEXPERTS and everything they achieve, he loves to see many different messages delivered on Singles Warehouse because ‘it will resonate with someone’. A huge believer in IDIC – infinite diversity in infinite combinations.

Outside of the office Jonathan loves supporting start up companies, offering advice on growing dating businesses and playing on his xBox!

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Selfish Lovers

SELFISH LOVERS

Here is something that is not only important but consequential because their reaction is unknown territory. Now what I’m about to say is directed to all you selfish lovers out there, and that’s to knock it off! Selfish lovers are painfully ignorant to others not just sexually but in life over all. What I have noticed are that those who are selfish know they are, and don’t care. However, if you have a selfish lover on your hands tell them because it is possible that they are unaware. Once that confirmation is brought to fruition make sure you work towards your lover’s needs as much as your own. Sex is not a toy for you to use just to get your rocks off. This selfishness is concerning because this shows a behavioral pattern that is purely one sided. With no care or concern for others makes it difficult to further and construct a healthy relationship. Selfish lovers have no connection to the relationship but instead their own physical needs. This makes it difficult for them to not just connect with you, but to anticipate your needs. If you are involved in a relationship with a selfish lover it’s best to talk to them and nip that in the butt! They don’t know they are being selfish, because they can’t see past themselves. It’s a paradoxical idea, but it’s real difficult for them to see what they’re doing and how it’s affecting you. No matter if your relationship is solely based on the physical or have a strong foundation this is not an easy topic to speak about. This is mainly because it can feel like a letdown or negatively causing the individual to become put off or even defensive.

On the other hand, if you know that you’re a selfish lover you are doing more harm than good for your relationship. If you can even say that’s what you have… You should never play with a person’s feelings because you never know how they may react. Making it difficult for them to recover and move on to a healthier more stable relationship all because of your selfishness. Before you go to bed with your significant other ask “is there anything you like that I may not be doing”? Then shut up and listen.

Be good and treat each other right!

Tracy Limon
I am currently working towards my MS in Family and Marriage Therapy emphasizing my studies in human sexuality. I help identify problematic areas that men and women face individually or in relationships. I’ve recently started blogging to utilize my education and help others identify those differences, mistakes, and bad habits that they have yet to conquer. It is my belief that we need to understand our own expectations before we can place expectations onto others.

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Dating After 40…UGH.

DATING AFTER 40

I began dating again at age 44, more than 2 years after I decided to end my 15 year long marriage. I didn’t actually CHOOSE to start dating again…(more on that later). I really had NO interest in men. At all. I used to tell people “I just got rid of one. WHY ON EARTH would I go looking for another one???” (Yeah, the marriage wasn’t all that fun there the last uh…7-8 years!) Anyhoo…

Let me tell you something. Dating in your 40’s is a PITA. That’s “Pain In The Ass” for those of you who don’t text (or have a love of acronyms). Having not been in the dating world since the 90’s creates one ginormous learning curve for starters. Honestly I don’t even remember HOW we met people to date when I got out of college.

It started in January with a man 12 years younger than me asking “What are you doing later?” My mind began to play a list of what I might actually be doing later that day (laundry, cooking dinner for my kids, yoga, maybe writing…) before I realized that he was asking for a date. Gah! I politely declined his advance and thought he was cute for putting himself out there like that.

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What happened over the next 48 hours completely blindsided me! ALL MY PAST RELATIONSHIP STUFF CAME UP… doubts, fears, insecurities, my “failures”. Then the questions… What do I really want anyway? Do I WANT to start dating again? Then I landed on “Why the hell not?” I didn’t see any of it coming!

To speed things up I’ll tell you that I decided to spend time with that man for almost two months. One day when something juuust didn’t feel right to me, I called it off. Then I found out he had a girlfriend all that time. Then I found out his girlfriend was really his WIFE. So that was my first dating experience after divorce.

As reeling as it was, the experience catapulted me into a space I’d never been in before. I was reminded how a good kiss feels. I remembered that I enjoyed the company of a man. It was exciting to learn about someone new. And I wanted MORE.

So began what I affectionately refer to as The Year of Dating 2015. I met a lot of men online, even though at first I was completely opposed to it. I had some varied results, as is to be expected I suppose. Interestingly, the results changed for me over the course of the year, in 3 “phases”.

During phase one I was entirely out of control. Well to a degree. All I wanted was to feel that “high”. You know, the baiting, the hook, that first touch, kiss….etc. etc. It was like a game. It was thrilling! It made me feel sexy again. Wanted. Until it didn’t. I got my heart hurt. A couple of times. So I stepped back, assessed my behavior and went back in for phase two. It was better. I felt like an advanced player. I knew a little more about what to do and what not to do. I created rules for myself. After a couple of months, I was crying again, cursing the whole process.

It took me a few weeks, after swearing I wasn’t going “out there” again, to enter phase three. This time I totally changed up my approach. I looked at it more like an experiment. I chose not to care as much. I decided to stand in my own power more. The craziest thing happened! The men that started to message me and seek me out were altogether different than the ones before that. The conversations were more intelligent, more substantial, and the “creepy” guys virtually disappeared. What??? What WAS this magic? Phase 3 turned out to be much more fun and I felt so much better about myself while dating during this time.

Well, at the end of the Year of Dating 2015 I did quite a bit of reflecting. What came to me in a very clear way was that in that last “phase” I showed up completely differently than I had before. My energy was not that of a woman needing a man. It was confident, relaxed and in fact more authentic. I chose to respect myself more than the man on the other side of the chat box. If something, anything, felt “off”, either I didn’t respond or I deleted/blocked the person.

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What I learned is this: YOU choose how to show up online for potential dates. If you want to sleep around and not expect much from your matches, then post sexy extra cleavage pics and flirt a lot. Don’t be shy. You’ll get exactly what you want. (No judgment here by the way. I ran that course.) But if you are looking for a life partner or someone to really value you as you and not just a play thing, then you MUST communicate that through your words, pictures and energy online. It is ALL about what you put “out there”. It will come back to you like a big ass, in your face mirror. And be honest about what you want. I’ve heard from a lot of men that women online say things like “No hookups” but then they post revealing pics and send suggestive messages to them. That isn’t honest. It’s manipulative. Don’t do it.

Online dating is what you make of it. Decide what you want. Communicate that in a genuine way. Create some guidelines for what you are willing to allow in a conversation, a date, and beyond. Honor your decisions and guidelines. (You can change your rules whenever you want to of course.) Remember to stand in your power. Then have fun!

Becky Heart
Becky Heart is a Certified Life and Yoga Coach. She was personally trained by Martha Beck and studied Yoga Coaching through Yoga Church, the first Yoga Alliance Accredited Yoga Coach teacher training. Becky holds a BA in Psychology from CSU Fresno and is a member of American Mensa.

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6 keys to keeping your marriage alive

Keeping your marriage alive

Being married and especially for many years is not so easy thing because passion and fire it’s difficult to stay alive… Even though when you commit to one another that’s usually the intention, after a few years or even months, the “fire” sometimes dwindles and may even go out completely. You have to make many concessions and you have to be quite patient…

Here we look at just some of the secrets and relationship tips on how to keep the love and passion in a relationship alive long after the fire, for many, would have gone out:

1. Stoke the fire with some thoughtful gifts.

Don’t let the exchanging of gifts just become a birthday and Christmas routine. When you’re out shopping, keep one eye out for something he’d like and buy it on the spur of the moment. It doesn’t need to be something expensive; it really is the thought that counts.

2. Have some fun in the bedroom.

Relationship tips would be incomplete without intimacy talk. Don’t let your intimate moments get boring. Buy a book or google for some ideas. Some of the positions will give you a good laugh, at least, if nothing else!

3. Go on a date.

Don’t get stuck in the same old routine and go out on a date together now and then. Book a romantic meal for two and finish the night with some champagne in front of the fire at home. You’re never too old for a bit of old fashioned romance.

4. Focus on the things that make him great.

Things for which you first fell in love with him, so that the flavor of his socks and flatulence won’t seem so bad!

5. Make time to talk.

We all know that good communication is the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Put aside some time for talking and concentrate on what you’re talking about. It’s not just about half listening to what he has to say, while you do the chores; it’s about sitting down together, looking each other in the eyes and really discussing things.

6. Just be there for one another.

Let your partner know that, whatever happens, you’ll be there for him. Ask what you can do to make his life better today and work together to make both of your lives just that tiny little bit better each and every day.

Harriet Brookes
Harriet is a blogger from Cyprus but currently lives in Rome, Italy. She has professional experience as a blogger at dating news , a columnist in magazines and sites in Italy and Greece. Harriet has a degree in journalism and a degree in cultural management units. Harriet’s hobbies include tennis, travelling and cooking.

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The Sexiest Hideaway Hotels in the US

SEXIEST HOTELS

While the fallout from last year’s Ashley Madison hack was primarily hella-bad, there were a few stunning fun facts that will forever be a beacon. The most interesting; a city-by-city cheater chart algorithm-ed by data visualization website, dadaviz.com. While the top infidelity prize goes to Sao Paulo, Brazil there are a host of U.S. cities which also landed in the top 25. For anyone who fancies role playing a private affair or those who outright want to book a secret tryst like Jen Gregory in the hot summer beach read, My Lover’s Keeper, (releases May 3, 2016) here are 5 of the best properties for discreet romance:

Los Angeles

Nestled on 12 acres of stunning landscaped gardens, this exclusive oasis is where the rich and famous go to hide. Hotel Bel-Air is regarded as one of the most beautiful and romantic hotels in the world. It offers five star hotel packages and on-site California cuisine courtesy of Wolfgang Puck. Reserve a private guest room with an outdoor fireplace adorned patio. It will create just the right setting for your sexy get-together.

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New York City

Right in the center of the hustle and bustle of midtown Manhattan is the uber discreet Sofitel New York. It’s perfect blend of Parisian Art Deco sophistication and1940s Manhattan glamour. The hotel’s Gaby Brasserie Française offers french dining and the suites have dramatic skyline views of New York City landmarks like the Chrysler Building. Want to go the distance for your lover? Book a Prestige Suite on the 24th floor and enjoy your own outdoor sanctuary with an expansive private terrace.

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Chicago

For a truly sultry evening book a room at the mid-century modern, The Langham, Chicago, They feature a large limestone bathroom with soaking tubs and adjoining rain shower, plus “reveal” glass that turns opaque at the touch of a button. Doesn’t get more seductive than that for you and your lover. The On-site restaurant Travelle Kitchen + Bar’s adjoining lounge, overlooks the Chicago River with panoramic city and skyline view. The property was recently recognized as the #1 Luxury Hotel in U.S. by TripAdvisor Travelers’ Choice Awards.

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Philidelphia

Located on the iconic Rittenhouse Square, The Rittenhouse has everything onsite to create the perfect romantic getaway, particularly for those whom money is no object and it is keep your meeting completely self-contained. The property recently launched their Diamond Package to celebrate their 25th consecutive year as a Five Diamond hotel. It includes a private champagne and caviar reception and luxury accommodations in the Park Suites. The Suites offer uber-luxe spa treatments including one using actual diamond dust and a custom diamond jewelry takeaway gift. The package starts at $10K per couple.

Miami

With a heavy Latin influence and steamy climate the city of Miami Beach vibes sexy so there are lots of romantic hideaway. The Thompson Miami Beach is the tops for covert couples to convene. The staff at this 1930’s Spanish-inspired beach house are super helpful and very discreet. Breathe in the seductive scent they infuse throughout the hotel, relax in the serene atmosphere and drink up the killer original hand-crafted cocktails served in the bar.

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Kerri Zane
Kerri is an internationally recognized single mom lifestyle expert, co-parenting authority, speaker, spokesperson, Emmy award winning television executive producer and Amazon best selling author of “It Takes All 5.” And read her new chicklit novel, “My Lover’s Keeper.” Available May 3, 2016.

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AM I THAT SINGLE GIRL WHO SWIPES LEFT AND RIGHT?

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A few months ago I was out for drinks with a friend and we were discussing dating. He was encouraging me to get back out there, but with my job having quite unsociable hours it is tricky to meet the love of my life. I have tried dating sites and just found they ripped off vulnerable people constantly asking you for more money the further you move along the online dating food chain. He suggested that well know Swipe Left or right dating app.

“I am not in it for a booty call. I am serious and will be keeping my legs firmly closed on the first date.” I insisted.

After he wiped up the beer that he spat out at me. He ensured me that it is not just about booty calls and he has gone on dates with girls that haven’t ended the night with a wham bam thank you mam.

So I join up and my friend chooses my five photos and away we go. Swiping away. More left than right. Standard. I am incredible fussy after all.

After a few days pass there are four guys that I quite like to look of and have been talking to. The usual groundwork conversation about what they do, where they are from, how their weekend was. A few days pass and not one of them has asked me out on a date. Further days passed and the same daily conversations go on. How was work? What are you plans this evening? But no sign of actually meeting face to face.

Well over a week now, so I ask one of them about meeting up for a drink. He says he is free Thursday 7th January. (It is the 2nd December when I ask). Blank.

Later that evening one of the guys finally asks me out that Friday. Win. On Thursday I get a message from him saying he has double booked himself and Friday is off. The next free night is in two weeks time. Free night? What about a 20 min coffee pre work or on your way to football practice. Fine, your choice.

A few days pass and he begins texting more and more frequently, asking more and more personal questions. Some questions I haven’t even discussed the answer with my best friend. I’m intrigued to find out why, basically a complete strange thinks it is acceptable for another stranger to tell them their deepest darkest secrets before meeting and knowing if or if not there is a connection. Has the world of social media and putting everything out there from behind a screen really gone that far? Is it to much to meet and actually ask these questions in person and over time? Interesting.

The personal questions keep coming and more and more texts arriving. (At times I’m confused to how someone can type that fast of reply). A robot? A bored computer hacker? Or just a lonely loser?

I don’t give any more that what I would put on the internet away to him. He could be a raving bunny boiler for all I know.

Two weeks pass. Two weeks of me replying one or two word answers or not replying at all. I do not mention our attempt at date number two at all in this time. He then informs me that he is busy and it will have to be in the New Year. Oh dear, what a shame. Block.

I revisit the app for a third time lucky attempt. I begin talking to a personal trainer who has a lot of similar interests and a good sense of humor. As much as I can tell through the screen of my iPhone. After three days I suggest meeting, thinking I am learning from past mistakes. He also gives me a date, in 3 weeks time. Third time unlucky more like.

Three weeks pass and I get a naked photo of the PT with the comment ‘Look what your missing out on.’ Hilariously he is tiny not just in his man hood but general body size. I’m more a chunky mans man, kind of girl.

Who do these fella’s think they are? Or what are they scared of? Prolonging to dating app messages isn’t going to make meeting for the first time incredible awkward any easier. It will always be horrific, best to get it over and done with sooner rather than later in my opinion. Like ripping off a plaster.

With the dating app I have given up swiping and instead deleted everything. Considering just meeting someone in the real world and not the cyber world. Retro, right?!

Am I that single girl who swipes left and right?

That Single Girl
Am I That Single Girl is, obviously, a single girl working her way through the dating world and discussing the common issues of dating, sex and relationship we all struggle with. Providing awkward stories, insight, advice and tips in a comedic way through her blog, she hopes to become the dating guru and conquer the world, making cosmopolitan free for all single ladies.

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AM I THAT SINGLE GIRL WHO SURVIVED THE ADELE BREAKUP SOUNDTRACK TO MY LIFE?

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“If music be the food of love, play on.”

Now we all have those songs that remind us of good time and amazing memories. Any Spice Girl song brings me back to the school disco in the gym hall. Take That songs remind me of the heartbreak I went through when the bands split. Nirvana reminds me of my grungy college years and my first boyfriend and drunken house party. But when working your way through the steps of break up, recovery music is a make or break tool in these hard times.

Adele and Sam Smith both have written wonderful songs post break ups as they pour their hearts into their lyrics. But when I was broken hearted I remember my best friend deleting any Adele or Sam Smith song from my phone, out of fear I would jump off London Bridge after a vino or two.

I have only in recent weeks downloaded Adele’s newest album. That bad, yep I know!

So how do these great artists channel their pain into practical work? Does this busy life keep them from taking a trip to the tallest London tourist attractions or were their friends also deleting certain songs from their playlists?

Over the past few months my work and life has been manic. Living out of a suitcase, flying here there and everywhere. Having no time to write a That Single Girl update, apologies for that, let alone think about That Single Girl, me. And, those few and far between times I have thought about my love life any butterfly feelings I had for my past love have vanished.

My playlist in back in full swing and I can finally understand what all the hype was about from new album releases. With these songs capturing the pain of a heartache it’s interesting to listen to the words pouring out and knowing you survived yet another partner. You survived. I survived. You can smile again awaiting your next victim.

Time is the healer. Not Sam Smith.

Am I that single girl who survived the Adele breakup soundtrack to my life?

That Single Girl
Am I That Single Girl is, obviously, a single girl working her way through the dating world and discussing the common issues of dating, sex and relationship we all struggle with. Providing awkward stories, insight, advice and tips in a comedic way through her blog, she hopes to become the dating guru and conquer the world, making cosmopolitan free for all single ladies.

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AM I THAT SINGLE GIRL WHO CAN BE FRIENDS WITH AN EX?

That Single Girl

“We are going to have to share a hotel room, is that okay?” The dreaded words to hear over the phone when talking to your ex after not seeing each other for a year.

It’s been a year since I last saw my ex in person. Texts, tweets, face-time, Instagram and Facebook likes have been exchanged in that time but face to face conversation and presents has been seriously vacant. But an up coming trip (which seemed like a fantastic idea after a few frozen margaritas) means fives days in each other company and same hotel room. Let’s face it there are three ways in which this is going to go.

  1. We sleep together. Stand by for the heartbreak and agony all over again.
  2. We argue constantly and never want to speak too, let alone see each other ever again.
  3. Nothing. Nothing dramatic happens, and a friend filled few days of harmless fun occurs. Yeah right, likely story.

Place your bets now…

But can you really be friends with an ex? An ex who you were madly in love with? An ex who you planned the rest of your life with. An ex who broke your heart.

Am I just setting myself up for a huge fall? Or could this be the closure and next step I need?

As I leave the airport and get into my Uber heading to the hotel, the what the f*ck am I doing sinks in. Is this a good idea? I mean seriously. Thank goodness for my incredibly friends and chatty driver who has unknowingly calmed my nervous and put me in a very good mood for what could be the most awkward hug in the history of the human race, and also given me some fantastic tourist tips.

I stand there at reception waiting for the clerk to find my name. Hilariously in the states no one can pronounce my name correctly, therefore finding a reservation always takes a few extra minutes of my spelling my name aloud over and over again.

He has to come down and confirm the booking. As he walks over there is a very brief acknowledgement of my presents. Good start. Not.

As we walk to the lifts (booking sorted and repeated apologies to the incorrect pronouncement of my name are given) the obligatory how are you, you look good remarks are mad. Then the awkward hug occurs. I mentally cringed as I went in for a hug but as we connected the embrace was just like same old same old. It was like I’d never left his arms. Do not girlyout over this; it’s just a hug.

In the hotel room we caught up. So many things had happened in our lives that we no longer discussed with one another. Yes we talked occasionally but it seems we censored our conversations ignoring the real nitty gritty things in life.

Later that evening we went for a few drinks in the bar. A text from my best friend ‘DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM!!!! (5 angry faced emoji)’ popped up on my phone. Always amazed me how she is one step ahead of me and is in my brain shifting through my thoughts.

And we didn’t. We did cuddle (very girly I know but it was nice and better not-getting-back-to-together-break-up-goodbye-awkward sex).

Though morning glory did occur the next morning. Well he is a man with a working penis in bed with a woman with breasts, one track minded guy. I declined. Inside I was scream but I knew the moments after I would be wanting to jump of the balcony of our 24 floors up hotel room. Mini celebratory cheer inside for me being a grown up and thinking of the bigger picture.

As the days went on, there were a few cold shoulder moments post ‘no I don’t think we should sleep together’ moment, but after a brief conversation on why that would yes be amazing but then horrific, we were back on the same page.

Five days whip past. And it is time to say goodbye. A kiss, a cuddle and a promise to call more often were exchanged.

It was five days of going back in time. Not back to being in a relationship with him but back being a friend and having easy conversations and fun together. The temptation was there, but as the days went on this was not the only thing on the mind of two exes moving on and rekindling a friendship. This could have been heartbreaking but instead it concluded and closed the doors on our relationship as the doors swung widely open into our friendship relationship.

Tears could of occurred on many occasions but without trying we would never of known, and the idea of losing someone who I was once madly in love with completely from my life would of been more heartbreaking.

As I sit at the airport awaiting to board my flight I have a calm smile across my face, ready to move on complete with another true friend in my life and not just another social media companion who will like my newly posted selfie.

Am I that single girl who can be friends with an ex?

 

That Single Girl
Am I That Single Girl is, obviously, a single girl working her way through the dating world and discussing the common issues of dating, sex and relationship we all struggle with. Providing awkward stories, insight, advice and tips in a comedic way through her blog, she hopes to become the dating guru and conquer the world, making cosmopolitan free for all single ladies.

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Improve your dating life with 5 smart changes…

improve your dating life

Having problems with your dating life? Is empty or each of your dating is failed? Some are trapped in a never-ending quest for that perfect date but cannot seem to find the right one. Sometimes to enjoy a better dating life, one needs to be a bit open to changes. Some people need to try things other than the usual to be successful. Here are some different things you can do to improve your dating life:

1. Meet new and different people

The harsh truth is there are some people who are much more successful in planning vacations, family events, or even what they are going to do this weekend, rather than managing their romantic life. If you really want to improve your dating life, you have to make the effort to actually have a dating life. Go out and meet people, have people set you up on blind dates, and join groups that are designed to bring singles together. Simply by putting yourself out there may be enough to get things going in the right direction.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others

You may know other people who have an exciting dating life and you’ll compare your success to their. Instead of comparing your dating life to someone else’s, focus on the things that you are doing right. Maybe you’ve been going to the gym more often and a few ladies have been checking you out. Just keep doing you and everything will work out.

3. Seek the help of friends

Trying to find that right person may not always be entirely up to you. Sometimes, you need the help of your friends. After all, friends can have a better idea of how to find a date for you based on how well they know you. Chances are, they have a friend of a friend who may just be that perfect fit for you. It might just help put you back into the dating game.

4. Look beyond the usual

Some people look for the someone to date in all the same places and fail. From bars to singles parties, some people just seem to focus on the usual places. But many times, some relationships start with a meeting in the most unusual or even the most ordinary of places. Love can blossom at the supermarket, in a baseball game, and even in a gasoline station. The main thing is that, you should not just try to look for love in the usual places. You need to open your eyes and look for it wherever you are.

5. Consider dating your friend

Some may find it weird or awkward when it comes to dating a friend. They just seem to think that someone they knew from childhood, school, or as a family friend may not be suited out to be someone they can date. But there are also some advantages to dating a friend. First, you are already comfortable with them. Second, you already know each other very well that there no longer needs to be a “time to know each other more” period. And third, the strongest relationships usually start with partners developing friendships. So it makes all the more sense that you should be considering dating a friend.

Read also: http://www.theswexperts.com/10-tips-to-get-romantic-with-your-girlfriend/

Harriet Brookes
Harriet is a blogger from Cyprus but currently lives in Rome, Italy. She has professional experience as a blogger at dating news , a columnist in magazines and sites in Italy and Greece. Harriet has a degree in journalism and a degree in cultural management units. Harriet’s hobbies include tennis, travelling and cooking.

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