Temptations Direct has been supplying sex toys, lingerie, bondage gear and more for over 12 years, shipping across the UK, Europe and the US. They have a massive range of devilish products on offer and in the last year, since being taken over at the end of 2014, they have re-launched the brand turning the devil into a lush and curvy “she” devil that men and women love! They want to ensure that you really do get the chance to ‘bring out the devil in you’ – and their online sex shop certainly has a multitude of sins waiting for you to indulge in. The business has a commitment to ensuring customers are completely happy with the service they provide and with amazing glowing reviews you don’t have take our word for it! Their customers are already very happy ladies and gents that keep coming back for more as it seems that once the devil in you is out there’s no going back!
Fast, discreet delivery – making sure your devilish secret purchases are in plain packaging – ALWAYS!
“Very professional and discreet. Super speedy delivery. I’m very satisfied with the product I ordered, especially that I couldn’t find it anywhere else. Will definitely be back again.”
Next day delivery available – handy for when you’ve left it a bit late.
“Ordered a number of items which were really good value and great fun! Delivery was prompt and I was always kept up to speed with the progress! Will definitely be going back for more.”
Free delivery on all orders over £10.
“Temptations Direct is one of these rare companies that show so much care for their customers, paying a lot of attention to deliver a 5* service.”
“A reliable company I always get what I am looking for.”
Nominated day delivery – have your order delivered any weekday of your choosing.
“Great company, very helpful with good communications with customer, would definitely recommend to others.”
Free returns – if it’s not working as it should be it will be sorted.
“Fabulous range and product quality. Super service and delightful to deal with.”
Tempt tokens – collect loyalty points on every product purchased which you can redeem against future purchases.
How’s your sex life? If you’re thinking, “oh…not so good”, you may want to consider one issue that basically ruins sex for couples. The question is: Are you present during sex? This is a common road block to a healthy sex life that many people are not aware of.
Life is so busy that it’s usually very difficult to take the focus off of everything you have to deal with. Just stop and think: Where is my mind right now? Is it focusing on this article? Is it thinking about what I’m going to do after I read this article? Is it multitasking?
Are we ever really present? When you focus all of your attention on one thing, it works out best, no matter what you’re doing.
The same rule applies for sex. Has someone ever said something like this to you:
“Honey…where are you?….I know you not with me….”
Well, answer the question! WHERE WERE YOU? Were you making your grocery list? Were you thinking about what’s on the desk in the morning? Were you ANYWHERE else but having a connected intimate moment with your partner?
So what do you do?
Clear your mind and forget about everything else. Pause. You don’t multitask or plan your day during sex. That bastardizes the experience. It is surprising how many couples face this issue and don’t even realize it. The beauty is that once people become aware of it, they can change it.
So recognize the reality of what you are doing and SAY IT TO YOURSELF: “I am having sex. Everything else will wait.”
On nothing but your partner and the feeling. Don’t let your mind stray from satisfying your partner. Maintain the energetic connection. Be willing to step outside of your comfort zone to please her. Eye contact is critical. Don’t break it, especially during climax. But remember, you’ll only reach to a good climax if you keep your mind in the bedroom.
Feel the reality of what is happening in that moment. The reality of human connection at its most intimate level. The reality of sharing humanity’s most pleasurable act.
Being present can be applied to anything in your life. Bringing total focus on whatever task you engage in will give you the best results and the most satisfaction. Don’t allow sex to be just another thing on the to-do list. Make sure you’re present. Make it count. Don’t let this one make it the beginning of the end.
Most people assume that a healthy sex life is just a given. This is a huge misunderstanding and relationships and sex lives both take work from those involved, it’s just that every movie, magazine article and tv episode indicates it should be easy, so we are left with a sex myth or gap between reality and what we think we SHOULD be doing.
Here are five tips that you will find useful for getting the sex that you want.
1. Define what healthy is for YOU.
Don’t take any notice of what the magazine you are reading says is a ‘normal’ amount of sex to have. Normal is whatever you make of it. In the way that we are all individual so are our sexual desires. Problems arise in couples when there is a difference in level or requirements of desire, but often when you talk about it openly you can agree to try something that works well for both of you.
2. Sensuality is key to sexuality.
The sensation of skin on skin touch produces a hormone called oxytocin which is essential for human bonding and plays a huge role in mother-baby relationship building. This isn’t different in adult relationships and touch should not be underestimated. The skin makes the entire body one big erogenous zone and exploring it can be really sexy. Why not try setting a clock and exploring the body with touch, whilst banning the areas usually touched in sex such as the genitals or nipples until the timer goes off.
3. Make time for sex
With the incredibly busy lives that people lead where we never escape technology it can be difficult to make time for sex. Why not agree to an evening where you go to bed an hour early and turn off all technology so that you are not disturbed and see where it takes you. Sex doesn’t have to happen but it is important to make time to reconnect with each other and your bodies.
4. Take a risk
Lots of people say that they are bored with their sex lives and it becomes repetitive as they never try anything new. Take a risk. Trying something new has to be suggested by one of you whether it is a position, item of clothing, location or new toy it takes courage and risk to offer up the opportunity. Make an agreement to try something new each month and alternate who suggests it.
5. Laugh when it goes wrong.
Sex can be messy and the best way to deal with something going wrong like falling off the bed, getting cramp or an unexpected noise is to laugh it off. Sex is meant to be fun and sometimes we can forget that, being able to relax and laugh about it may even bring you closer.
Yes, Salt n’ Papa had it right! Let’s talk about sex, because this is one of the most important conversations a couple, lovers, and yes even one night stands will ever have. No matter your relationship title you should always talk about sex! Expectations, your willingness, turn-ons, and deal breakers to help the other person know how to please you. Ladies don’t expect him to know what will please you, because you’re the only one who knows those bedroom secrets. Guys want to know what makes you wet, turns you on, and keeps you going. This is important to their confidence and ego, so if they can’t do any of those things for you then they think it’s them, when it’s you! Give them a fighting chance to make your night unforgettable. Even though men connect physically they still have pleasure sensors just like you. So ask him what he likes and how he likes it. I believe what’s fair is fair and you can’t get yours without him getting his, because it’s never nice when only one person gets off.
Men please don’t assume you know what you’re doing.
Because every women is different. If you don’t feel like you’re getting the job done it’s probably because you’re not! Ask her, what do you like? How can I please you? Something! Here’s a secret about women, we don’t want to hurt your feelings and we don’t like to be disappointed. As confusing as that may be it’s the best way to get through a dry spell, lack of interest, and the dreaded faking it. Take a moment and talk about what you can do for her, and what you would like her to do for you.
Ideas for you both to enjoy.
Toys, lotions, music, chocolate, it’s all a good idea! Cuddle, caress, kiss, and even flirt with one another. It’s called foreplay for a reason, so play with each other! This is a part of the desire that women love to feel. It’s not meant to make you work, but to keep her feeling desirable. No shortcuts. Women like to hear they’re beautiful but don’t let it be the only thing, because it does get old after a while. Men, I’m sorry if this sounds like it’s all on you. Half the battle is getting through to women on talking about sex. Ladies if you’re not enjoying your partner maybe you should stop, and think if there is something not being said. Instead of having unsatisfying sex, and turning to your vibrator tell him where you need him, he will appreciate you more for that. Communication is part of sex so you should share in it to make your sex life better, and most of all have fun!
Have a great one,
It’s the 4th of July. Fireworks are all around me. Even in the city that never sleeps, more often than not, I meet women who are stuck in some kind of dependent mindset in which they long for prince charming, a house with a white picket fence and 1.94 kids. The cost of this delusion is shitty sex and controlled vaginas.
Which is hard to believe in this day and age – and in this city. I feel like I’m in some kind of delusional Disney movie where women are looking for the Prince Charming Leprechaun Unicorn to make all their problems go away!
Here’s a 6 step example of the brainwashing of American women that I see.
If you want sex, something must be wrong with you.
If you want a “stable monogamous” relationship – but you don’t want sex – then something is right with you.
If you want sex but don’t want commitment – there IS something broken in you.
There is only a limited amount of love to go around. Give love to one person only – because if you love more that one, you take away from another. Like the stock market, love is a zero sum game.
One partner should and must supply every need in your life – and if they aren’t, something is wrong with you, something is wrong with them or something is wrong with the relationship.
Be miserable and tolerate intolerable behavior in the name of romantic love – the feeling of “but I love him/her.”
This simple brainwashing formula creates a ton of unhappy people in unhappy, sexless relationships and it makes me want to scream. Because women act like these “moral” ideas are absolute truths, facts and reality. And for most of us, this can’t be farther from the truth.
The problem is that critical thinking is not a natural thing. It must be learned. And if we think critically about the brainwashing formula – and its myriad of forms – it’s easy to see that these ideas are just a bunch of made up hooey. For example – step 5. Show me evidence that shows that the majority of people experience one person supplying them with everything.
It’s just not reality.
What’s wrong is the brainwashing model we are using, not the people using it. Sexual brainwashing is a form of learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is essentially the idea that our beliefs in god, morality, the universe, karma, etc are real tangible things. And our belief in their extra worldly power, in effect, make us powerless. Helpless to change.
Our beliefs create patterns of behavior shaped by negative, suppressive experiences. We take it to mean something about our inner selves. We learn to act helpless in our search for love and relationships – even though we are not!
The key point is that if you have no control in your life regarding sex and love, then you learn there is no escape. So eventually we lose our voice. We lose ourselves. We lose our ability to take action – even though we actually CAN take action. This is what my TantraXO course is all about. Helping women break free of the bullshit psychological brainwashing that creates learned helplessness.
The good news is this: If you can learn it, you can unlearn it! So here’s to psychological Independence Day!
So you have a fantasy, but you’re not sure how to make it happen. First and foremost, sharing a fantasy with your partner should always be positive. Couples with an open communication who regularly engage in fantasy indulgence can have a highly pleasurable experience, not to mention a highly trusting relationship. Trust will only deepen intimacy and make sexual fantasy all the better for it. This type of self-revealing is an amazing pleasure tool.
The Beginners Guide to Light Bondage:
Where Do I Start?
It depends on what you are looking for. Do you want to just spice things up or are you looking to get downright dirty? What you need to begin is a tool kit. This can be what you’ve imagined and actual props or tools to act out the fantasy. For the purposes of this article we will take the novice approach and talk about light bondage. You can get what you need anywhere from your local super store to a sexual novelty shop and even around the house. If you want to try some light bondage you can invest in bondage cuffs or you can grab a few of his ties or your scarves from the closet. Ties and scarves are great because they can pull double duty. They can act as blindfolds as well as actual bondage items. And sometimes ties aren’t even necessary. Simply holding your partners hands above them, limiting access to you can be a huge turn on. Denial and teasing is amazing foreplay.
To step it up a notch, try some dirty talk. With your partner bound and blind-folded, you are restricting one sense, sight, while enhancing others. His sense of hearing and touch will be amplified. Use your mouth and hands from head to toe. You can kiss, lick and talk about what you are doing, about to do and want to do to him in this vulnerable state. Get your body involved by sweeping and rubbing it on him. The ultimate tease while using your body is to give him a taste of what he’s going to get for being patient. This is a mini-reward meant to drive him crazy with anticipation and can be done a couple of different ways. You can hover over his mouth and let him sample for himself or if you’re comfortable touching yourself, give him a taste with your finger. Ask him if that’s what he wants. Tell him he has to wait, all the while touching him and hinting at what’s to come. And then give him a little spank for being naughty and impatient when he tells you he wants you right now.
Let Him Have It!
With him and hopefully you sufficiently revved up and desiring you, give him one free hand, but still limit what he can do. Let him touch your face or pull your hair while you go in for a kiss or to whisper dirty things in his ear. Maybe you could use a little spanking for being naughty too. (Drop a hint for that one if he’s never spanked you before). Now you can remove the blindfold and let him feel himself inside you slowly and deliberately. Increase the hotness with reverse cowgirl. Tell him to bend his knees, creating a platform for you to slide up and down, again slowly giving him what he wants. Although he can see at this point, he still cannot place both hands on you. Increase your speed, while teasing with how you can’t wait until he can fully touch you and take you. When he is begging and throbbing for you, release the beast. Untie his last restriction and prepare to be handled. Submit to his manliness because you’re about to be taken.