There was a time in my life when I hated running. I don’t consider myself the least bit athletic and that is just fine with me. My high school extracurricular activities did include band but to clarify I didn’t and still to this day can’t play an instrument. I was a member of the color guard. You know the kids who move around the band with flags, sabers and rifles? That was me. It was about two years ago that I found myself at the park kicking off my couch to 5K program. To be honest with you my dating life at the time was a hot ass mess and I had two choices: drink or exercise, I chose the latter (using a drink or two as a reward). Today I’ve run a 10K and am training for a 15K with a goal of running a marathon one day. It was on a run that it dawned on me how much dating is like running, lets talk about this.
Dating is Like Running because…
It hurts. Whether you’re just starting out or seasoned running hurts. It could be physical or emotional pain, ranging from blisters to being hard on yourself. Do you see the similarities here? Dating hurts regardless of how many times you’ve been around the block. That first heart-break can make you swear off dating for the rest of your life. Then you get some experience under your belt to only find yourself single after a long-term relationship or marriage. Dating is like running in that the pain it causes me makes you stronger! Every run I push myself a little further and that has resulted in me setting and crushing the goals I set. You can do the same thing when it comes you’re dating life.
I have to force myself to do it. If running were easy more people would do it and the same goes for dating. There are mornings I have to force myself to put on my running clothes and get out the door. As for dating I’m currently having to force myself to do it. I have zero desire to get fucked with. I’m currently spending time with Aidan which makes it all too easy to be closed off to entertaining new men. In all fairness, its slim pickings and when I do send messages to men 98% of them don’t reply, impressive huh? Dating is like running because on the one hand you’re content but on the other if you don’t force yourself to do it, it won’t get done!
I’m happy I did it. Dating like running brings moments of utter happiness (i.e. crossing the finish line/committed relationship) and magnificent sadness (i.e. injury/break-up). All that accounted for I’m so happy when I’m finished. It’s usually around my second mile I’m so proud of myself for not having talked myself out of it. When it comes to dating you know that feeling of walking away from a handsome man who made you laugh, smelled good and leaves you wanting to see him again. That feeling leaves is like a renewal and can have you questioning the doubt you had at the onset. Dating is like running when the date or run is over there are enough endorphin’s released to make you want to do it again.
If you can relate how do you think dating is like running?