It’s normal to feel nervous when you finally get the chance to go out with your new crush for the first time. If you have a solid date night plan and you’re aware of what NOT to do on a date, you’ll be set up to have a super successful first date that will hopefully lead to many more. Here are 10 first date don’ts to avoid in order to make a good first impression when out with a new love-interest.
1. Texting/answering calls on a date
We are a tech driven society. We are all on our phones all of the time. Having said that, there are some times when it’s inappropriate to be on your phone. A funeral. A wedding. A DATE! Especially on a 1st date, the person you are out with should have your full attention…. after all, you are trying to get to know him or her, right? One exception is if you have a job where you are on-call. Explain the nature of your job so that your love-interest understands that you may need to take or make a call. Other than that, give your date your full attention.
2. Flirting with the waitstaff
There’s a difference between being friendly and being flirtatious with your waitstaff on a dinner date. It might sound crazy, but this happens more often than you think. Be sure to pay the most attention to the person you’re actually on a date with! If your waiter or waitress is the hottest person you’ve ever seen (or hotter than your date) and you feel that MUST flirt with him or her, do it away from your actual date, this could backfire if the waiter/waitress knows that you are on a date. They might think it’s douchebag move to flirt with them.
3. Bad manners
Don’t act like an entitled prince or princess. No matter how fabulous you are, it’s always polite to say thank you after a date. Your date made time in their schedule for you, just like you made time for them. He or she may have even put extra effort in and made a reservation at a fancy restaurant or made special arrangements to impress you on your night out. Let your date know that you appreciate the effort they put forth. Your gratitude could be the difference between a future date and never hearing from them again.
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4. Last minute cancellations
Life happens. There will be times when you may have to reschedule a date. Having said that, be polite and give your date some notice if you need to cancel or reschedule a date. Texting your date an hour before you are supposed to meet up is not okay. Your date could be already en route to meet you by then. Notify your date as soon as you know that you won’t be able to meet up.
5. Talking about exes
Naturally exs will come up in conversation but there’s a difference between casually mentioning a memory where an ex was involved and ranting about an ex, multiple exes, or all men/women in general is not a good move! Make sure the conversation is focused on learning about you and your date, not on an ex or anyone else that isn’t directly involved in your date night experience.
6. Complaining/ being negative
Nobody wants to hear a bunch of negativity on a date. A date should be a fun evening while getting to know someone new. Complaining about anything and everything brings the positive energy down to heavy, depressing place. You want to be with someone who brings happiness and levity to an experience. You wouldn’t want to be around someone who makes you feel sad after spending time with you. Remember that the next time you hear yourself complaining about a bunch of stuff on your next date.
7. Ditching your date
This one is an absolute NO unless your date has done something to offend you or make you feel unsafe. Even if your date looks different than he or she looked on their online dating/dating app profile, stick it out. You committed to the date and you both set time aside in your schedules to meet each other so follow through. The date doesn’t have to be hours long! Just make it short and sweet. A 45 minute coffee or cocktail is perfect. Ditching a date only leaves them feeling bad about themselves. Follow through with the planned date then simply don’t agree to a 2nd date.
8. Too touchy feely
Unless your crush has invited you to lovingly touch him or her or gives you the go-ahead, assume that it is not okay to touch certain body parts considered by most to be intimate. Being too touchy-feely too soon, could end any potential for future dates.
9. Drinking too much
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying a beer or a cocktail while on a date but binge drinking on a first date is an amateur move. You are still getting to know your date. You are still learning what his or her intentions are. You want to do everything you can to make sure that you are able to take care of yourself and make clear headed decisions. Overdrinking can shift a date into an awkward, uncomfortable, or even unsafe realm. Know your limits.
10. Texting unwanted dick pics
On a first, second, or even third date, a photo of your private parts is a risky and potentially offensive move to make. The early dates are about making a good impression. The one exception is if you and your date have had a discussion about sexy pics and they’ve expressed interest in exchanging them. Even then, use caution.
Making a bad move on a 1st date can totally derail any potential for future dates or even a new relationship. Put your best foot forward and try to avoid these 10 First Date Don’ts!
Hugs and love, Erin ‘The Dating Advice Girl’
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