Everyone enjoys a good before and after picture. Be it the positivity that comes with an Ambush Makeover on the fourth hour of Today or the tragedy of a Parent Trap Lindsay Lohan compared to what she became. Some of our favorite pictures to see are the ones of someone a few months after a break-up.
Kourtney Kardashian’s picture is one of the latest. Many have preceded her, and we know many that many more will follow. The similarity between each is that these people tend to look amazing post break-up, and the writers of the caption seem to point the finger at revenge.
When someone looks fabulous after a break-up, why do we automatically assume it’s all about revenge against their Ex?
When we see these post break-up pictures, we read copy like “revenge diet that works” or “rocking that revenge body on the red carpet”. Granted, these people look great, but I question whether or not their weight loss or their makeover is really about their Ex. Perhaps their new look, new fitness regimen, and new smile are really about something else.
I’ve had three major break-ups in my life, and within months after each I looked better than I did when I met the Ex. Each time, the Ex played no part in it because the change in my look was all about me. Here’s why…
After a break-up, we sometimes feel like we’ve lost control of our direction. We can control our diet and exercise.
When a relationship ends, especially if you’re on the receiving end of a break-up, we can lose our sense of direction because the road we envisioned was built for two and not one. When your direction changes unexpectedly, it’s human nature to find a road that we can navigate without the aid of a co-pilot. How we eat and when we work out are two very simple roads that we can navigate as a solo act.
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Sometimes we need to get out of our head, and a good workout will clear those thoughts of your Ex.
After each of my break-up experiences, my head would race with the gamut of “what ifs” and “what nows”. Nothing gets you out of your head better than a cycling class. Over time, the thoughts of your Ex subside; replaced by thoughts of your new life and the new places your life will take you.
Elle Woods said it best about those endorphins!
Thanks to Reese Witherspoon’s character, we were reminded, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.” A good exercise program not only gives you that boost of happy, but also leaves you with a tighter body. The tighter body brings compliments that improve your self-esteem, giving you even more reasons to be happy. I honestly never thought I would be happy again after my last break-
up, and that couldn’t have been further from the truth. The gym helped to pave the way.
Shaking up our look before joining the dating scene also boosts up our confidence.
The hardest date you’ll ever have is that first date after your last relationship. Going into that first date with your arsenal of confidence fully loaded is the only way to have fun on that date. Confidence in your external appearance will enhance your assurance in conveying your internal feelings and words to your date. Confident daters put their best foot forward on a date, with their charm, wit and smarts operating on all cylinders.
When you see a friend that’s recently gone from break-up to bombshell, be sure to compliment their appearance, but also acknowledge the work it took for them to get to that point. The incredible look is just the result of how your friend got his or her head back on straight after a failed relationship. And if you’re like me and you’re sporting a post-relationship body that stops traffic, I say congratulations- you’re on the right road to your new incredible life!