Considering that the swinger lifestyle is no longer such a taboo topic, you and your partner might have brushed on it once or twice but never actually discussed it. But, if you like the idea of swinging and are interested in giving it a go, there are certain aspects of this lifestyle you’ll need to consider. First of all, don’t just jump into it. If you get comfortable over time, you can consider trying to find a couple seeking couple option that might work best for you. Or, if you already have a certain couple in mind, opt for that instead. But just to be sure, go over the following details with your partner before proceeding with this particular sex practice.
Make sure you and your partner have reached an understanding
This is especially important if you are just getting into the swinging lifestyle. The reasons behind your desire to try it need to be clear. If just one of you wants to have relations with different partners, and the other is going along to save the relationship you shouldn’t even take this into consideration. In that case, working on the relationship or going your separate ways is what you need and not entering a swinging relationship.
On the other hand, if you have a strong and solid bond with your partner, and you just want to try something new and spice up your relationship, then this might be just what you need. It is essential that you are both on board when it comes to wanting to try it, and, at the same time, that you are both 100% comfortable with the idea of sharing partners. Then and only then can you proceed.
Choosing the right couple for your first swinger experience is very important. It will determine whether or not you will enjoy the practice and if you would be willing to make it a part of your sex life.
First of all, it would be a good option to have a sit-down with your chosen couple just to get to know them better and set some ground rules. You need to make sure you are comfortable with each other and state clearly what you are and are not interested in doing as a part of your swinging experience. If it is possible, try to find a couple who is experienced in this sort of sex play as they can guide you through the whole process and help you loosen up. In the beginning, it would be wise to avoid swinger parties, as you are still learning about the process and not sure what you or your partner’s reaction to the whole thing might be.
Based on what you have read so far, you are now ready to make an educated decision whether or not a swinging relationship is a right fit for you. At the very least, if you are really attracted to the idea of it, just give it a try, that way you will know for sure if it is something you and your partner can enjoy.