One thing everybody wants and needs is love, but nothing is automatic and love wont just happen. So to help things along, here are some love rituals you can practice in your life that will bring great rewards when it comes to giving love and being lovable. You can choose one or more ritual to complete a day.
1. Start by actively loving yourself. Okay, so get in front of the mirror and think about someone you know that loves or admires you.
As you look at yourself, see yourself through their eyes. Stand there and absorb that vision of yourself for a full minute. Then whilst you’re still in front of the mirror give yourself a personal compliment. A very specific tailor made compliment. Just for you. Be nice to yourself. Even if this feels strange, narcissistic or even plain uncomfortable. Stand there and enjoy the compliment. Absorb it fully. Feel that love. Alright now go out and face your day!
2. Throughout your day you’re going to smile at 5 people you do NOT know
Simply hold their gaze when you would normally look away and just smile.
3. This one is fun and will make you feel good and give pleasure to others.
You’re going to give 5 people a genuine compliment. It could be someone at work about a great presentation they gave or a colleague’s new hairstyle etc.
4. For this one you need that mirror again.
Look at yourself and do it through your own eyes. Take time and appreciate being you – call to mind a favourite compliment you have received and enjoy it all over again. How does this feel? As you go through your day keep that image of yourself in your mind and be totally aware of your fabulousness.
5. Now you are going to really love on yourself.
Give yourself at least 10 minutes for this mirror exercise but this time make sure you are sitting comfortably and close your eyes. Then begin speaking to your body. Speak to your heart and tell your heart how much you appreciate it beating every day. Speak to your lungs and tell them you appreciate them enabling you to breathe every day. Speak to your blood and appreciate that it flows to and feeds every organ of your body every day. Speak to your kidneys and appreciate them keeping your body clear of toxins etc etc. Go through your body and appreciate, love and bless your physical being. Close your eyes as you imagine your body feeling the love. You know your body has emotion……don’t you? Do it while playing inspirational instrumental music in the background if you like. That adds to the experience. It’s very healing and it’s a loving thing to do for yourself. You are so worth it. You will feel so good at the end of it.
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6. This ritual requires a deeper work and asking yourself some questions.
Are you carrying bitterness and pain from your past? If so, commit to begin working through these issues. You are not going to be ready for love carrying these. Your heart needs to be free from those painful memories and healed from those hurts. You also need to learn the learnings from those relationships. Have you considered the power of forgiveness? Forgiving not because they deserve it but because you deserve to be happy. You deserve to have love in your life. You can’t be happy if you are still rehearsing, reliving, rehashing every terrible thing your ex did to you.
Let go of the anger, don’t keep on imagining ways you can get your own back. How can you move forward if you are constantly looking through your rear view mirror? Your focus is in reverse! Leave the past exactly where it is, right there, behind you. If you don’t, you’ll just have a bitter spirit, a sharp tongue and an ugly attitude. And we know ugly goes to the bone! Not attractive at all.
By now, you will have realised that these rituals help us become what we seek. No one is attracted to someone who doesn’t enjoy being in their own body or someone who never has a kind word to say to, or about, anybody or even someone who doesn’t give off positive vibes; instead they carry negative energy and a critical spirit. But after these rituals that won’t be you!
If you want to do more work on these areas of your life do email me at [email protected] and I’ll respond.