So, you’ve heard about swinging and become curious. You might have even discussed it with your partner, but you are still not convinced whether or not you should try it out for size. In this day and age, swinging has become part of the mainstream sex culture, and for swingers, dating is far more accessible than ever before. That means you won’t have a problem when it comes to finding suitable couples who are willing to engage in this type of sex practice with you and your partner. The only thing that is left to consider is whether or not you actually want to try it out.
Make sure you have covered all the bases
You need to be certain before embarking on a swinger journey. That said, having a sit-down with your partner and going over all the possible issues that might come up when you try swinging is an absolute must. Also, there is no room for jealousy, you have to be clear on that. Swinging is about purely physical pleasure and an emotional distance is essential. You will see your partner interact sexually with someone, as will you, so both of you need to be ok with seeing that. Also, make sure that you trust the couple you choose to have your first swinging experience with. It would be ideal if they are already experienced and can guide you through the entire process. Being familiar with what to expect is the best way of ensuring that the first encounter goes without a glitch.
Find out the general rules of engagement
You need to be clear on what is and isn’t allowed when it comes to swinging. If you are just starting off with one couple, then you four set the rules, and you need to agree on such things as whether kissing is or isn’t on the table. In addition, if there are some kinky elements that they are used to practicing, you need to know so that you can decide whether or not that particular sex practice works for you and your partner. Going in blind is never a good option. On the other hand, if you decide to pay a visit to a swing party, where multiple couples are present, you should check with the host if there are some predetermined rules you need to abide by. That way there will be no surprises and both you and your partner can enjoy the experience.
Reserve the right to back down
This is very important. If at any time you start to feel uncomfortable or pressured, you have the right to excuse yourself and leave. No one can predict how they will react the first time they choose to try swinging. And going through something even though you don’t feel comfortable with it can have lasting consequences on your psyche. So it’s always a better option to pull the plug than to end up with a traumatic experience that might put you off swinging completely.
So, now that you know the lay of the land, so to speak, you can make up your mind and come to a decision together with your partner, whether or not swinging is just the thing to help you keep your sex life fresh and exciting.