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Is ‘Type-Dating’ Keeping You Single?



Most of us have a set of standards for the people we date, or a ‘type’. While it’s important to know what you want, if your guidelines are too strict or standards too high you could actually be the one keeping yourself single! The extensive list of physical qualities or personality traits that you require a date to have may not seem too much to ask, but by ruling out so many people you simply have fewer fish in your dating sea and could be eliminating a huge bunch of quality people. 


Are there enough fish in the sea? 

Make a list of what qualities you would need a date to have – be honest – and then consider which of those you could hold judgment on. For example, if you won’t date someone unless they have a certain hair colour or face shape, it could be time to realise that that is quite an arbitrary reason for refusing even to get to know a person. By cutting out the most superfluous of your dating demands you might be surprised by the sheer number of new potential dates you will meet


Are you holding yourself back? 

By continuously dating the same type of person, it’s unlikely that you are growing through your relationships. Just like stepping out of your comfort zone in life teaches you to be able to cope with new things and gather experiences, so will broadening your dating comfort-zone enable you to grow in love. This will spread through all areas of your life, helping you to know even more what it is that you really want out of a partner.

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Is it really working for you? 

If your dating life has been unsuccessful so far, it could be that the qualities you look for in a partner aren’t necessarily compatible with your personality. We often become idealistic about love, expecting it to solve all our problems when that simply isn’t realistic. Be honest with yourself about who you are and what you want out of life, and you may realise that the person you usually go for doesn’t share those values. By becoming more flexible with the sort of person you date, you could open your eyes to a quality of relationship that you didn’t even know you were missing.


Why do you have the ‘type’ that you do?

Maybe you’re holding on to a past relationship or trying to be someone you’re not. You may even fear entering a relationship with someone, and use an unreasonable list of demands for a future partner to give you an excuse to stay single. Letting go of your list and opening your mind could open up and change your dating world completely. Why not give it a go? Challenge yourself to look outside the box and go out with people who you might not ordinarily choose. You might be pleasantly surprised.