The phrase “is just not into you” is something that we all hate. Mostly, because it’s true when it happens– even when we are living in complete denial about it. Especially for women this phrase is more annoying. He disappears for days at a time and then texts you the sweetest message you’ve ever received. He says he really cares about you, but doesn’t really act like it. If he’s not calling you, it’s not because he is too busy or he is shy but it’s because he doesn’t like you or doesn’t like you enough to call you.
If you’ve noticed these signs in your new relationship, it may be time to evaluate if he’s really the guy for you:
He is not interested talking to you
If he doesn’t have an interest in you, he won’t have an interest in talking to you. The key here is to not automatically assume that he’s not interested in talking to you because he’s afraid of making the first move, or takes a long time to reply to your texts. You need to see if he actually has ample opportunities to text you or talk to you, and then based on those, decide whether or not he chooses to take those opportunities or simply ignores them.
He gives you excuses why he didn’t call you
He’s busy, he’s stressed at work, he has a million things going on. If he’s into you, it doesn’t matter how busy he is, he’ll take EVERY second in a day to reach out to you, even if it’s just to send a quick text. If he’s into you, he won’t risk some other guy snatching you up while he was “too busy” working on a project. If a guy says he’ll call you tomorrow and then doesn’t call until two or three days later, it means you’re just not a priority to him and he’s neither here nor there. If a guy is into you, he’ll call when he says he will.
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Waits too long to set up a second date
If you go out with a guy and he makes no indication of ever wanting to see you again, or he waits a few days to call (it’s one thing to do this after the first date, quite another to keep doing it after the second, third, or fourth), it means he’s on the fence about you and isn’t really feeling it. If a man is into you, he’ll make it known that he wants another date. He might mention other date ideas he has for the two of you.
He talks to you like he does with his friends
This is actually quite easy to spot. If he always talks to you in a casual tone of voice, similar to how he does with his friends, then he’s probably not into you. When a guy is interested, there’s always at least a slight variation in how he goes about speaking with you. One of the best things you can do is to observe his behaviour with other people. That way it will allow you to judge if how he’s acting with you is any different.
You haven’t been introduced to his friends
No, it’s not that he wants to keep you all to himself. Be honest with yourself. When he likes you, he’s going to want to show you off and see what his friends think about you. By introducing you to his friends, who are presumably a big part of his life, it shows that he wants to include you in all aspects of his life