The SW Experts | Men Don’t Really Love Bitches. So Why Are You Still Acting Like One?
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Men Don’t Really Love Bitches. So Why Are You Still Acting Like One?

Men don’t really love bitches. So why are you still acting like one?

 

I get it; the struggle is real out there. Yet some of you ladies still have no clue about men and zero control over your behavior. Neediness and entitlement are at an all-time high. It’s like a bitch-pocalypse. Men are wooed into being leashed by a new age feminist who wields the power of “not answering your email on POF or Match”.  She is strong and we must defeat her! By the way, scientists are trying to develop a weapon to defeat you before mankind is wiped out. I hear Tony Stark just signed on.

Coming from a woman, I know that this may sound harsh, but as a dating and life coach for men; I speak the truth. Sorry not sorry – modern women daters suck. They’re prissy, unrealistic and full of expectations that are poorly mismanaged. You need to take the only Disney Princess advice that ever made sense and “Let it go”.

Maybe in the past you have been disappointed – a lot. Maybe now, you’ve decided that it would be a good time to give up, just stay in the slut phase indefinitely or worse yet –fight back. We are all, even me, guilty of that self-sabotaging thinking/behavior. Hell, I’ve stuck with guys just for the sex. I’ve dealt with less than stunning treatment out of an “it’ll do for now” mindset. I’ve rejected a guy who didn’t fit my “list”.  I had lost respect for men in general. It’s not pretty when I look back on it now.

If I wanted to move forward and have good relationships, I had to let that shit go. I simply cannot fight someone genuinely pursuing me because some emotionally stunted ex broke my heart or couldn’t commit. Period.  There is no such thing as the perfect man. There is however a perfect man for me. And by perfect, I don’t mean that he has to fit some obnoxious checklist of qualities and “haves”.

What does this mean for you?

Too many women start relationships blinded by shiny object syndrome. It’s ridiculous. You are not entitled to a man’s attention, love and affection, if you make it always about you.  You are not going to find a good man until you quit paying attention to bad boys, narcissistic pricks and users. You want him to have his shit together, so get right with you first. Drop the agenda and have a little me time with your ego. Kindly tell her to fuck off. And while you’re at it, stop listening to your girlfriends. Worst. Advice. Ever.

[Tweet “You are not entitled to a man’s attention.”]Stop loving or lusting after men: according to height, income requirements and ridiculous “must-haves”. Handsome faces don’t always make the best partners or fathers. Large bank accounts don’t fill voids and solve problems that require communication and emotional support. 6’2” could be lazy while 5’9” is motivated and actually has goals that he is crushing like a boss. If you chase based on superficial standards, he might be a few inches taller or even have a few more dollars. But in the end – bitch please, you want a unicorn not a good man.

A good man doesn’t want you when you behave like this. Don’t believe me? A study from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign discovered that men found women who they perceived as “nice,” and more responsive (in a first encounter), more feminine and sexually attractive. To them, women who were more empathetic, aka feminine, was a turn on.
“The men also found these “nice” women to be more long-term relationship material. In such situations, people tend to rely on traditional norms of how men and women should behave,” lead researcher Gurit E. Birnbaum told The Huffington Post. “When people’s behavior fits with such expectations, they are perceived as more attractive.”

So, if you are quickly rejecting men or sizing them up before they can complete a proper introduction; you’re a bitch and ruining the only first impression you will get. If you were saving your wit and eye-batting for the hot but really bad for you guy, you just lost out on the good guy who will actually respect you, teach your children morals and have the integrity you only with the hot guy could possess. Good luck with that!