Flirting can be a hideous chore if you don’t know what you’re doing, but it quickly becomes fun and light hearted once you’re a little more clued in!
Here are some tips for what to do…
- Practice makes perfect – if striking up a conversation is daunting, you’re going to need to feel the fear and do it anyway! Chat to everyone; barrista, postman, people in the lift at work, and you’ll feel far more ready to talk to Mr/Miss Right when they come round the corner.
- And don’t get too worked up about how to start that conversation; say hello, smile, and see where it goes from there.
- Use their name regularly (but obviously within reason)! People love this; it makes them feel instantly close to you, and that you’re really engaged and interested in what they’re saying.
- data-blogger-escaped-comment-[endif]Use body language appropriately. Subtly mirroring their actions when they speak to you will make a person feel more at ease, although if they’re hunched or closed up it’s better to maintain an open, welcoming stance to encourage them to relax too. Even touching their arm or shoulder lightly when they make a joke can be a great way of making your companion feel closer with you as well.
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- Be sincere with your compliments and don’t overdo them!
- Be confident – if you believe you’re great, others will too.
- Be a good listener. It’s often said that people love to talk about themselves, so by asking questions and being attentive to the answers you’re giving your companion what they want, which is likely to make them enjoy spending time with you.
- If you’ve got a funny bone, use it! Laughter is attractive and always a great icebreaker.
- Being playful is another light-hearted way to encourage sparks between you and your love interest. Teasing and joking will ease a situation and by creating funny jokes and secrets just between the two of you it will make you feel like you’ve known each other for longer. That ‘partner in crime’ vibe is a lovely way to get closer to someone.