The dating world can be confusing and intimidating for guys. For girls, it’s easy. All they have to do is show up, but guys need to stand out from the crowd, and let a woman know that he’s interested. For some guys, letting girls know that he’s interested isn’t challenging. They’ll use a spray and pray method. The spray and pray method involves walking up to every girl in the bar, making a move, and then moving on to the next target, if the girl shows no interest. But for other guys, it’s not as easy. Many guys have one particular girl that they are interested in, and showing interest can be intimidating. So they allow the crush to go on for a long time, sometimes even years. It makes you wish that you could just pass the girl a childish note reading “Do you like me”. But unfortunately, we are adults now, and that type of behavior won’t cut it anymore.
Why Don’t We Just Man Up?
It wouldn’t be so difficult if there weren’t consequences. If you tell a female friend that you’d like to take the relationship to the next level, it could ruin the friendship. And if you tell a co-worker that you have feelings for her, it could cause a lot of embarrassment and awkwardness in the office. When it comes to approaching strangers, it’s not as threatening, because the embarrassment will likely be short lived. But even though you may never see the woman again, no one likes to be rejected.
So, what’s the solution? To pick up on her non-verbal clues, of course. Here’s a list of some non-verbal clues which can validate interest, and the more of these that she is throwing at you, the better.
Laughing at Your Jokes
Does she laugh at your jokes or does she roll her eyes? Laughter is an important indicator for determining if a girl likes you. Some girls will genuinely find something that you say funny, while others may overdo it so much that it’s ridiculously obvious. As a side note, many women are attracted to men who have a good sense of humor because they are fun to be around and spontaneous. In fact, many woman list a good sense of humor as one of the most attractive traits of a man.
She’s Paying Close Attention to You
Nowadays, it’s hard to have a conversation with someone with all of the distractions around us. And it can be frustrating trying to speak with someone while they are constantly checking their phones, looking around the room, or looking through their purse. If a woman seems to give you her full attention when you are together, it’s a pretty good sign that she likes you. This is especially true if she is the type who is always distracted when she is with others.
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Eye contact is a very good indicator of whether or not a woman likes you. If a woman likes you, she’ll display more eye contact, and even hold it for long periods. If she isn’t interested, there will be very little eye contact, and she may even look at others or around the room while she is speaking to you.
If you’re speaking to a woman and she touches your arm or any other part of your body, she may be trying to tell you something. You need to be careful when reading the signs, though. For some woman, touching others may be part of their personality. So if that’s the case, don’t use it as an indicator. But if touching others isn’t a habit for a woman, she could definitely be displaying affection for you.
Allows You into Her Personal Space
When you’re together does she get close to you? Does she sit close? Is she in your personal space or at a distance? Most people, especially women, like to have their personal space when they’re around other people. Sometimes, it will be three feet, for others it will be more or less. But, when a woman comes close to you, or allows you to come close to her, it’s a pretty good indicator that she is interested. This is especially true when she shows signs that she is relaxed and enjoys the close proximity. And it’s a really strong indicator if she is always initiating the close contact.
Making Herself Look More Attractive
Both men and women do it. When a man or woman sees someone who they want to impress, they’ll check their hair, get a quick glimpse in the mirror, straighten their clothes, or apply makeup. We all want to look our best when we are in contact with someone who we are attracted to, so if you notice this type of behavior from a woman that you’re interested in, you definitely have a shot.
Body language plays a large role in dating. A man who can read the signs can avoid a lot of embarrassment. We all have little tells that will display how we feel when we are around a person. For example, if a woman has her arms crossed as she is speaking to you, that could indicate that she isn’t comfortable around you. But, if she leans in close to you as she is speaking, that could indicate that she is very interested.
The world of dating can certainly be intimidating. But sometimes, in order to get what you want out of life, you need to take risks. The tips above should help you to get a better understanding about what type of situation you’re in. After all, it wouldn’t be a good idea to approach a woman who is displaying absolutely no interest at all, as it could be embarrassing as well damaging to your ego. But, if you take the time to read the signs, you should be able to determine whether or not you have a shot or if you should move on. Remember, if a woman displays one of these signs it doesn’t necessarily mean that she is showing interest, it may just be a coincidence. But, if she is displaying many of them, let the flirting begin.