You might think that with such a wealth of apps and online dating sites now available, it could only be a good thing when searching for your next partner or just some sexy time…
But is this true?
There seems to be no end of choices when it comes to dating tools, both mobile and online. Forums, dating sites, adult hook-up sites and mobile apps. There are literally hundreds to choose from.
So what should you bear in mind when looking to itch your next scratch or search for your next prince / princess?
Too many tools in your box can be a bad thing.
It’s very tempting to sign up to more than one site or utilize more than one app. In doing so, it’s likely you aren’t spending enough time on either. Writing a compelling profile and putting up some quality pictures takes time, not to mention the time required to actually connect with people on the sites themselves. A scatter gun approach will mean you are less likely to hit your mark. Read my Tinder Tips to get the best out of one of the most popular apps.
Too many princes and princesses can mean you end up with a frog.
Just about everyone is guilty of having a vision of their ideal man or women when searching online. After all, there are so many out there so why not? But what does that mean in reality? Everyone wants to date a supermodel, but are you punching way above your weight? Targeting your next date purely based on looks will mean you are less likely to succeed. Why? Because that’s what everyone else is doing. That David Beckham lookalike or super hot Swedish blonde will already have hundreds of emails they are probably not even reading. Focus your attention on more realistic prospects and you will be more likely to get your golden chalice rather than a paper cup.
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Spending too much time online means you never actually live reality.
Social media users are guilty of this too and dating tools are no different. If you spend all your waking hours swiping, checking out profiles and sending messages you are forfeiting more traditional ways of meeting new people. You have to reach a balance with actually going to social events, following your favourite hobbies or even just taking a walk in your local park. “Well I can do that while I’m using an app,” I hear you say. While that may be true, are you aware of the people around you who may be trying to give you a cheeky glance or chat you up? Mobiles have become a barrier in conversation, and it’s time to put down the phone and look up.
Getting loads of offers for hook-ups is a good thing – if that’s what you are looking for.
Well is it? Sure, if you are looking for a one night stand, all of those offers can leave you with an endless supply. Is hook-up sex really that great though? For most people it can leave them feeling empty and unfulfilled. It can become tiring, while in the meantime you may have potentially missed out on a great guy or girl in your area that could develop into something more special and even blow your mind in the bedroom. Getting late night drunken calls from all those brief encounters can be a problem later on. Imagine the scene: you are rolling around in bed with your ideal partner and your phone just won’t STOP ringing. Awkward.
Using dating tools is a great way to meet people outside of your normal social circles.
We all work longer hours and go out less. The days of going to your local bar, chatting to a hot girl or guy and potentially going home with them are now rarer than before. When used wisely, dating apps and websites can be a great way to meet new people. But before you start, begin with a goal in mind. What do you want to achieve and who are you looking for? It’s too tempting to just jump in and start dating with no idea what you really want. Then if you do meet someone great you have no clue what it is you want from them.
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