Sometimes no matter how hard we try our relationships end in fighting, crying and disappointment. When we are not fully ready to let go of our partners we try the tried and true, break. Usually, you end up getting back together without actually fixing anything, but breaks can help. Here are some tips on
How to Properly Take a Break from your Relationship
Have a plan.
If you feel the need to take a break from your relationship without truly breaking up, you need an exit plan and a strategy on what the two of you will work on while on that break. Each of you should list the problems you have with the other and both commit to working on those problems. The only way the relationship is going to work is if both of you commit to fixing what is wrong.
Take at least 3 months.
3 months will give you enough time to get over the initial shock of loss and missing the other person. You will then have the time you need to both reflect and fix the problems and lesson the hurt or anger you may have felt for them.
Don’t contact each another.
Talking to your partner every day isn’t going to fix the problems you have, it’s only going to keep you emotionally tied to the other person and lessen your commitment to helping your self and whatever issues you need to face. Cut off all communication, no matter how dramatic. If this means for the next 3 months you need to block them from your phone, email and twitter than do it. This person isn’t dropping of the face of the earth and if you really want to take a break from your relationship you have to break everything off for a while.
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If the point is to work on your issues so you can get back together, seeing other people is only going to make things worse. Take the time to focus inward not on new people.
Slowly re-enter the relationship.
Even if you take the time, entering in the relationship may not necessarily fix the problems. Try going in slowly and trying to build back trust and love, better than you had before. When you take a break from your relationship it should be to come back to it with a fresh perspective and new eyes.