#5 There should always be a balance of equality in relationships. I do for you then you should have to do for me. It’s just fair.
You will have more suffering than peace in your relationship if you are focusing on a secret mental checklist of “Tit for Tat” instead of investing energy into attraction to get your needs met.
Resentments breed when we don’t get our needs met. We are not unconditional, we are human. We get sick. We break down. We die, slowly sometimes. We have conditions/needs that the relationship is supposed to satisfy to some extent depending on each individual and unique relationship dynamic.
We are much more attractive, thus much more likely to actually get our needs met if we care clear about what our needs are within ourselves, forthright about communicating those needs and involve ourselves in generation a motivation (inspiration) in our partner to WANT to help fulfill our needs.
We can channel super natural unconditional love, create space within us by clearing old baggage to make room for it to flow, but we are imperfect humans so we will build resentment if we try to give or expect unconditional love without inviting in that which is beyond us.