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is s and m dangerous


With the release of “Fifty Shades of Grey”, the film, S&M has become one of the most talked about subjects over here just as much as over the pond. And that’s by far because of the film’s success. Or, more surprisingly, it is in spite of the film’s failure to achieve reasonably high ratings. Could it be because we love to hate it, or hate to love it? I’m not sure.

Fifty Shades of Controversy

Ever since the film’s release, the comparisons with earlier similar films, the dissection of the subject, the pros and cons of the story are the theme of a constant buzz. Studies have been made and recorded on video, documenting older people’s reaction to the film’s trailer as well as to extracts from the book, written by E.L. James. Needless to say, the result was fifty shades of controversy.

What makes this subject so popular? Written by a woman, the 3 books might be pure feminine fantasy dotted with a few harsh realities, but we can’t stop but wonder what we would do if faced with similar challenges to those faced by Ana, the protagonist. Good or bad, the story of Ana brought the subject of submissiveness and domination, of sadism and masochism into mainstream culture. It managed to dilute the forbidden quality of them. And as it is, it’s here to stay. This is merely the beginning.

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Who’s Your Secretary?

Anyone who’s seen the film “Secretary” with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal, must admit that it was revolutionary in that, that it brought S & M into the workplace. It also brought it into love territory. It made S & M work for a relationship. It made it work within a relationship. That’s what “Fifty Shades of Grey” is trying to make work, too. S & M within a relationship. This attempt however sets off to a rocky start and comes to a halt by the end of the first book and by the end of the movie. For a moment reality sets in. S & M is dangerous. It can be dangerous if let loose, beyond what one can bear.

S & M – When it isn’t Dangerous

Of course, pain and danger used to be its flagship. Hearing those two letters one can immediately picture dark dungeons, weird practices, shrieks and cries. You’d imagine that it’s a world populated by freakish, twisted and damaged people. But that’s not all it is about. It’s certainly inhabited by people with a wild imagination. Some might have a playful streak, others might be into extreme fashion wear, acrobatics, dominated by wild curiosity, not settling for the mundane or just liking a touch of pain. Most are people like you and me. They can be  kind, generous, friendly and helpful.
And exploratory. Maybe just a step further than you and me. Do you know anyone like this?
To be continued….

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