The SW Experts | Should You Discuss Your Fetishes on a First Date?
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Should You Discuss Your Fetishes on a First Date?

Should you discuss your fetishes on a first date

How Much You Should Reveal to a New Partner

Dating is a daunting process as it is – and that’s before you even get around to talking about what turns you on.

Let’s be honest, a first date is a complete minefield. So much can go wrong in a short space of time, and the list of dos and don’ts seems endless. Do you kiss or hug? Do you pay for the meal or agree to split the bill? If you’ve made it past that awkward stage and things are heating up towards the end of the evening, surely there’s nothing else to worry about. If you’re one of the many people with a fetish though, you’ll probably be wondering whether to tell your date about it. So here’s what to do next.

Finding The Right Moment

So, you’ve made it as far as the bedroom, and things are going well. What your new date doesn’t known though, is that you’ve got a foot fetish. Or a tattoo fetish. Or a maybe even a domination and submission fetish – let’s face it, there are too many different ones to count. Whichever one applies to you though, when is an appropriate time to bring it up? Well, one thing’s for sure – not right now. If you’re going to ‘fess up to having a fetish, you’ll need to talk about that before you reach the bedroom. So, let’s rewind a little.

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Talk About Things First

Now, bringing up a fetish may seem like a strange thing to do while you’re getting to know each other, but hear us out. In the age of Tinder and online dating, we're rarely going into dates knowing nothing at all about each other. Perhaps you’ve been talking for a while and have built up a bit of a rapport. Maybe your conversations have turned into something a little x-rated. So if you do start talking about what you both like in the bedroom and you feel comfortable in their company – go for it and tell them about some of your fantasies. We’re not saying everything, but just give her a general overview of what you’re into. On the other hand, if things are a little awkward and you’re not sure if the spark is there, don’t bring it up.

Cut Straight To The Chase

If you’re still not sure about how talking about your fetish would go on a first date, then how about a practice run? An evening spent with an escort is the perfect way to experiment with how comfortable you are opening up about your desires. She’ll listen to what you want, and she’ll do all that she can to leave you feeling satisfied. You’ll be able to build up you to the possibility of discussing your fetish with a new lover, and she’ll show you a few ways of pleasing your partner at the same time. So you’ve got no first-date awkwardness to negotiate, and you’ll grow in both confidence and experience.

Satisfy Your Urges, No Matter How Your Date Goes

To answer our original question – it really does depend on the date. If things are moving quite slowly, then don’t mention your fetish. If however, you’re finding that the conversation is getting pretty raunchy and you can see where the night might end up, drop a few little hints. By hiring a VIP escort though, you can fulfill your fantasies and not worry about any adverse reactions. So even if that first date doesn’t go too well, you can still get your fetish fix!