Do our exes have some kind of psychic ability to tell when we’re nearly over them? Because they seem to pop up again just when we thought we’d seen the last of them! There are several sorts of ex who crawl back.
We have the lurker. That’s the one that always likes your posts on Facebook. When they see that you’ve met someone else, they might lunge back into your life with a late night text confession! This doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ve changed for the better. They just can’t stomach the sight of you with someone else.
The second type has had an unwavering commitment to getting you back since you broke up. They may have cheated on you, or done something nasty to ruin the relationship. Perhaps they wanted more ‘me’ time, but quickly realized it was a horrible mistake once you left?
Then you have the ones that don’t make any sense whatsoever. One minute they’re hot. Then they’re cold. They call you non-stop for a week, and then disappear entirely. It can be really tough to figure out what these types of exes actually want!
So what are the signs that they want you back for good?
They Call Or Text Constantly
The reasons are usually pretty rubbish. They want to see how you’re doing. Did you find that DVD they stashed behind your telly? Have you seen their favorite flip-flops? How’s your dog feeling? For whatever random and strange reason, they’ll find it necessary to bombard you with questions until you finally answer.
The Hang Up
Have you ever received a phone call from an unknown number, only for the random ringer to hang up after you answer? If you have recently ended a relationship with someone, it might be them. But you saved their number, right? Exes can be tricksy hobbitses. They know you have their number, so maybe they borrowed their mate’s phone to do a bit of phone stalking.
It’s Too Late To Apologize
But they don’t know that! You might receive the Iliad of Facebook messages, a drunken voicemail, or an impromptu performance of a tearful apology outside your bedroom window at 4am on a Saturday morning.
[Tweet ” There are several sorts of ex who crawl back #Dating”]
One day they’re sending you four paragraphs of nonsensical ranting. Maybe apologizing. Maybe shaking their fist at you for getting over them. They delete you, then re-add you. They write all over your status updates, photos, and tag you when you’re not hanging out together. If someone of the opposite sex writes you a post, or tags you – they’ll need to make themselves visible. Either by a like or by a comment, but they do not want you moving on! If that fails, they may try and talk to your mates to worm their way into your life. Also, it’s pretty obvious that the six songs they’ve posted to their timeline are a thinly veiled way to try and get your attention.
It’s Not Stalking If You’re Already In The Neighborhood
Hmm. So in one week you’ve bumped into them at your local coffee bar, the gym, outside your house, inside your backyard, and perhaps even found them hanging like a bat inside your chimney? Even if you call them out on being everywhere you go, they’ll insist that they’re ‘just in the neighborhood.’
The Rotten Apple Of My Eye
A nice ex will compliment you to try and win you over. A mean one will shout obscenities at you and curse your name. Either way, they want you back. Whether the attention is positive or negative, if they’re making the time to call you something – they’re not over you.
I Need That Sock Though..
So your ex contacts you with a legitimate question. They need to come over and see you right away. Because…there’s a sock, a hair extension, or a book that they left at your house. That’s fine, but they’ve already come to pick up their stuff – three or four times! Yet somehow they always leave something behind so they can come back, again and again.
When you wake up after a peaceful night of sleep on Sunday morning, your phone has 12 text messages, 6 missed calls, and 3 voicemails that you’re not sure you want to listen to. Uh-oh, someone’s been on the tequila again….
They’re Not Dating But They Say They’re Dating
This one can be confusing, depending on the personality of your ex. If they’re really not over you, they won’t be interested in another relationship. That said, they may start blowing up Instagram with random members of the opposite sex to try and ignite a spark of jealousy in you.
Has an ex tried to get you back? What tactics did they use to try and win you over? Let us know in the comments!