When you start dating again everyone feels like it is their job to give you advice. Even when it is unwanted or unsolicited. Some of the advice can be great while other pieces of advice may make you cringe. I have listed some of the worst pieces of dating advice I have heard to date. If someone suggests any of these things, I say you do the opposite!
1. Change up your style
I absolutely hate this advice! You shouldn’t have to change one thing about yourself when you are dating. It is so important to be honest and be your true self when dating. That is the best way to create a strong and lasting relationship. Changing your style or anything about yourself isn’t giving your potential partner an authentic portrayal of who you are. Be yourself and don’t change for anyone!
2. Just go for the free meal
This is so not okay on many levels. One, it isn’t right to use any guy like that. Two, it could be a huge waste of both your time and his. If you know you aren’t into him there is no need to lead him along. How would you feel if someone did that to you?
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3. Don’t be so picky
Why should I have to settle for someone or for a relationship? There is nothing wrong with setting certain (realistic) expectations that you want in a partner. It is important to find someone who you can see yourself fitting well with, and if it takes some secretiveness to find that, that is completely okay. In ten years you want to look in the mirror and say the life you’re living for is the one you chose, not the one you settled for.
4. You will meet someone when the time is right
This advice sounds very condescending to me. Truth be told, there is never a “right” time to date or fall in love. It just happens. Telling someone that it isn’t the right time for them implies that they have to change or they have to wait for other events in their life to fall into place. Sometimes putting this attitude behind dating can be very discouraging and make people feel like they will be waiting forever.
5. If you don’t feel a spark on the first date walk away
Many times, attraction grows overtime. I am a big believer in going slow in relationships. This way, you can learn a lot about each other in the beginning and start off as friends. Then the relationship can go from there. If there is no spark right away that is okay. Like attraction and chemistry, that spark and magic can grow over time. Don’t walk away just because things aren’t fast in the beginning!
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