There you were, lying in bed one night after making love to each other when all of a sudden, your partner started telling you about his fantasy to introduce another couple into the equation. Your bedroom equation. Couples seeking isn’t something that would have otherwise crossed your mind, but that doesn’t mean you’re not open to the idea. So where do you go from there? You go and have another talk or two with your partner about what he expects to get out of it, and why he thinks it would be good for your sex life. Then you go online and start reading about other people’s swinging experiences, and before you know it you’re picturing yourself in bed with two other people.
As fun as this may be, the more information you have on the topic, the more you’ll feel prepared to take on what’s in front of you. That’s why we’ve prepared a list of top 3 things to expect once you join a swinging community in order to get the most out of it.
#1: Expect to Improve Your Communication
In order for you and your partner to engage in swinging properly, you’ll need to catapult your communication to new heights. You’ll need to learn to read your partner’s non-verbal cues and facial expressions, and you need to come to each other’s aid in case one of you feels left out or is uncomfortable with whatever is happening. You won’t stop a session to discuss what’s on your mind – you’ll have to do that very subtly so you don’t disturb the flow of the situation.
Swinging is definitely not for everyone, and it shouldn’t be used to get back at your partner or to make them jealous. It only works if your relationship is rock solid, and each of you has enough self-confidence not to worry about the other person finding someone better through swinging. That said, there will be uncomfortable situations and if you can work through those you’ll discover that swinging can be incredibly fun. You might get jealous or start to feel neglected or your partner might see something between you and one of your swinging buddies that just isn’t there. Be prepared for some level of discomfort, but the more you and your partner are open and honest with each other, the more satisfaction you can expect from all fronts.
#3: Expect the Unexpected
The world of swinging can be kind of flaky, and that shouldn’t deter you from seeking a couple for sexual play. Just be prepared for various types of personalities, schedules, and most of all – moods. Extensive research and plenty of time and patience are required to find the people you’re compatible with on every level. That includes chemistry and physical attraction, kink preferences, location, and compatible schedules, to name a few. You shouldn’t give up after a few first tries, and should definitely start on the web by reading swinging forums or joining a local chat room where you’ll meet people who’re into the same things you are and live nearby.