Swinging, or wife swapping as it can be called sometimes, is a form of experiencing sex with your partner on a whole new level. If you’re thinking about joining a swinging community, keep in mind you should expect the unexpected. Also, we’d like to share our top 3 tips from experienced swingers so you get an idea of what you’d be getting yourself into.
#1: Bringing up the Subject
If you haven’t talked about swinging with your partner just yet, and are unsure about how to bring it up, there are a few things you should do to prepare them. First of all, make sure they’re in the right mood. Mentioning swinging in passing over brunch on Sunday is a good idea if the two of you don’t talk about sex as openly as you’d like. Your partner might be taken off guard, but they won’t feel threatened because they won’t be in a threatening setting. Another way to introduce swinging into the conversation is when you share fantasies with one another. When you’re lying in bed and playing with each other, bring up the subject of having a threesome, and see how your partner reacts. If it goes well, a threesome is a great starting point for newbie swingers.
#2: Finding the Right Partners
You’ll have to do plenty of research to find the right partners who’re into the same things you are. Start with the internet forums where you can find local swinging communities. You can also give Reddit a try because it has loads of useful information on the whole concept and other people’s experiences. Once you’re good and ready, go to a swinging club and watch other people in the community interact with each other. This is a great way to dip your toes in, and you can absolutely go only as far as you’re comfortable. Keep in mind that this is a very particular community, and people in these clubs are often very approachable and like to offer guidance to new couples. You can sign up for newsletters and get notified when local events or parties are being thrown.
#3: Communication is Key
Before you jump into bed with another couple, you have to make sure you and your partner are well-coached on how you’ll communicate during a swinging session. You need to talk about safety and comfort, and if one person starts to feel nervous, uncomfortable or left out, their partner should take care of them above all else. You need to recognize and understand each other’s non-verbal cues for a night of swinging to go well. It’s important to understand that swinging will take your relationship to a whole new level and strengthen the bond between the two of you. At the same time, it is not a tool used to cheat on your partner or hurt them in any way. You can expect either of you to feel insecure or jealous, and if you can work through such uncomfortable moments, you’ll discover that swinging can be quite rewarding.